Husband and his wacky family are making me miserable

dynamom

I am a 30 year old woman, married with two children and am at the end of my sanity. What do I do when my husband and his family make me so crazy I just want to take the kids and run far, far away.

My husband and I have been together for 12 years and it seems as though he will never grow up. When we have family get togethers, he is off playing around with the kids - acting just like one, while I sit with the adults and visit. It is sometimes very embarrassing and I wish he would realize he's not a little boy anymore and be more of a husband and father.

Overall he is a hard worker and provides for the family, I stay home with the kids. The thing is, he is constantly grabbing and me or making comments that make me feel like common street trash. He can't talk to me without looking at my chest, or when he walks by he grabs or pokes at me. Other times when he walks up to me, he puts his hands out like he's going to grab my chest.

He makes stupid remarks, nothing like hi honey, how was your day and hardly ever hugs or holds me, when he does it's like he's hugging a buddy, it's real stiff and there is no feeling behind it. I don't think he has the capability of thinking about anything besides sex, and I think he is very compulsive. If he has a really off the wall, stupid remark, he thinks he can just blurt it out and it's normal. In my entire live, I have never experienced anyone like him.

I have turned into a real bitch because I can't stand him, or his family anymore. He has no communication skills what so ever and seems to think his sister has to be in the know about every stupid thing. If something happens (not in our marriage) he seems to think it is normal to run to her and bring her into it.

I feel like I am always the last to know and he seems to always treat her really nice, but when he does something that upsets me or hurts my feelings, I better not react or he gets mad and me and doesn't want to deal with it. I think he spends entirely too much time at his sisters house and talks to her a little more often than what I would consider "normal".

You have to walk on eggshells and always worry about what you say or how you say around his family because they always twist things around. Believe me, it is them, not me! He has two older sisters, who at different times I have become pretty friendly with, but there is always something that causes them to get weird. When our first daughter was born, his one sister wouldn't even come to the hospital or to our house (and didn't have anything to do with her until she was at least a year old or so), and there was no other reason she gave except that she said I wasn't very nice to her when I was in labor.

Well, my husband will tell you that is not true, but she was drilling me with questions and in my face. What did she expect out of me? Needless to say, there is always conflict in his family. His mom is a closet drinker and I think she is just plain nuts and I truly think the sisters are just like her, except for the drinking part. I don't know if any of this is making any sense, but I have to get it off my chest because I'm going to go off the deep end if something doesn't change.

If I had a decent job, I honestly think I would walk away because I want to be happy and if that means being alone, fine. Is it normal for a husband to expect his wife to always worry about upsetting his family, even if it results in hurting his wife or children. I think that we should be his top priority and he should be willing to stick up for us at any cost - that is if he truly loves us. It's so bad, I can't even cry anymore and I don't know how to escape this nightmare. H E L P !!!!!!!!!