[mich81]

Plain and simple... guys and gals...

Put yourself in my shoes... I am a 22 year old female... What would be the oldest and youngest guy you would date?

I ask this because I have always tended to date guys that are about the same age or slightly younger, but my sister wants to set me up with her husbands friend who is almost 10 years older then me. I just wanted to see what people generally would think!

[bluechocolate]

Think about what?

22 & 32 - there is no reason why you couldn't get along & have a successful relationship.

[mich81]

Thank you... I guess I am just looking for some reassurance.

[reasontosigh]

I agree - 10 years older is not a problem.

Since you're only 22, I would think anyone more than one year younger than you could pose a problem. Anyone under 18, of course, is an absolute no-no!

[faux]

I would never, ever date anyone under the age of 18 for legal reasons, as I am over 18 myself. I prefer not to date anyone younger than 21, as I find that at my age even two-year age gap feels worlds away. This gap, however, varies from individual to individual. I am uncertain of the maximum age I would date, as I feel this would depend more on the gap in lifetime experiences, and how well we interacted over a period of time.

[abbyroadme]

I don't see anything with a ten year difference. Since my Grandparents were 11 years difference between them and they were very much in love.

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