[Bigdog740]

My girl and i broke up recently and she heard from one of my "friends" that i cheated on her. My "friend" just got dumped by her bf for cheating She thinks i hooked up with this one chick i know and with "random girls at parties"- which ive never done in my life. I offered to call the girl she thinks and prove to her but she has a deep down feeling i cheated. And no evidence, being: hearing from the girl, seeing it, finding underwear or something like that.

How do i convince her that im innocent, ive been as rico suave as possiable. We have gone out for 1 year and 2 months. We have a VERY passionate deep relationship and are both truly in love, and the "spark" is still there.

[bluechocolate]

The thing that stands out about your post is saying that you are both deeply in love. To my mind deep love comes with trust & it sounds like your girlfriend doesn't trust you. Why is she more willing to believe your friend than she is you?

I don't think you should have to "convince" your partner of faithfulness. What exactly is it that you can do to convince someone of the truth? And more importantly, why should you have to?

[P1xie]

I just went through this with my boyfriend. His best friend told him that he thought I was cheating because of something he heard.

We have been together for almost three years and I felt if he felt that highly of me then it would have to be the end. I point blank told him that I have never cheated on him and if he had any doubts I would leave right now. He just looked at me for a minute and then said well you have never lied to me before.

We are still together, but if he does not trust me then we have nothing. I don't care who tells him what if he wouldn't of believed me I would of left.

[heartattacked]

P1xie, Why the hell would you leave your boyfriend right then and there if he didn't believe you? You don't know what he heard and you don't know how much he actually knows you, as opposed to how much you think he should know you. You're going to blame him so much as to leave him for not believing you? You should be happy that he is concerned about you cheating on him, not punishing him for being concerned - sakes!

Whatever!

[P1xie]

heartattacked I don't think I was punishing him. I don't feel that I needed to go and with with excuses or any explanation. I live with my boyfriend this isn't a highschool romance.

If he did not believe me then every time I go out he would be thinking I was out with some other guy and I would get the third degree of where I've been etc. I do not want to live that way and I know for a fact he would be furious if I ever did that to him.

As for how much he was told that is a joke. It doesn't matter what he was told he either believes me or doesn't. If he doesn't then I need to go and he needs to let me go because why would he stay with a cheater?

[heartattacked]

my point was that in general someone being concerned about their partner cheating is only natural... as no partner wants that! but yeah, if he makes a habit out of worrying about it then there are some trust issues there no doubt.