Am I crazy for thinking that when two people date and have sex, they should only have sex with each other and no one else? Or is that not how things are done nowadays?
As long as they limit their current sexual partners to under a handcount, it's cool yo.
Nah, I'm in the same boat as you. And I can't think of anyone I've known in the last couple years of school who would disagree. Sex involves different levels of committment for everyone, but in my experience the combination of dating and sex means it's a pretty established unwritten rule that any outside messing around is off-limits. Anything to the contrary needs to be discussed.
I too thought that was the point of dating someone....if you're dating you should be sleeping with them only otherwise isn't it just like being
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Am I crazy for thinking that when two people date and have sex, they should only have sex with each other and no one else? Or is that not how things are done nowadays?
This is what is going on with the girl that I have been dating. We get intimate, and only want to get intimate, with one another. Of course, the whole thing is an entirely different mess in entirely different aspects of the relationship these days. Bah.
I agree, though. Having multiple partners is risky and, I think, inconsiderate. This girl and I feel we know each other well enough to be intimate, and speak about intimacy openly, and that's good enough for us. Fortunate I found someone who feels that sex is something that should be taken seriously.
If it's real dating, i think sex is the point where exclusivity should be obvious by then.
If it's casual hanging out and sex happens to happen, - oh well, no obligations.
I.e., I don't think the fact of sex has anything to do with exclusivity. Sure, it's safer that way, but what you feel about the person matters a lot more than whether or not you've slept with me, doesn't it??
You're completely not crazy. People who are dating and having sex should NOT be having sex with anyone else. Then again, everyone is different so if the couple makes some sort of agreement that's ok....personally, I think that's gross but ya.
UCFKevin,
to me it is very obvious, but it is always better to ask the opinion of the person you are dating, to avoid unpleasant surprises.
Well, actually before I have sex I need to know the relationship is exclusive..... I need to hear the "will you be my girlfriend?" line, like a 14 yrs old.
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Somehow I always thought it was just women who felt that way....Nice to see that men have feelings about it too......Especially one as handsome as yourself....Too bad you are such a young un....LOL
Originally posted by livnnlrnin
Somehow I always thought it was just women who felt that way....Nice to see that men have feelings about it too......Especially one as handsome as yourself....Too bad you are such a young un....LOL
Women!!! i would think women would WANT an exclusive relationship.
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Women!!! i would think women would WANT an exclusive relationship.
Yeah I think that's exactly what livnnlrnin was saying. Sounds to me like she IS a woman, and she was just paying Kev mad props because he's a guy and also wants to have that kind of exclusive relationship.
I can't say that I've only slept with a girls that I had an exclusive relationship with, it's just not true. But that's also long ago and far away for me. And yes, during that time when I was fresh out of college and living the single life it was a lot of fun, for both myself and the girls that I was dating (dating being a very generous term in this case...)
BUT, when I did find myself single again a few years ago and I was starting to date, I was only interested in having sexual relationships with woman that I was going to be exclusive with.
So I think you're absolutely right Kev, I know that I didn't feel comfortable AT ALL with the thought of dating someone that was also having sex outside of our relationship. ICKY!
Thankfully this isn't all that much of a problem with most woman I've met.
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