[Teddi]

hi.....

Theres something that really bugs me about myself..

socialising has never really been a problem for me.....i can always fit in what ever situation im in..but when it comes to girls...its a different story...im not as confident with them as i wish i was

this is the same story as thousands of guys like me across the world..but thats not the bit that annoys me....

when i am comfortable with a group of people...the 'real' me comes out....what i mean is...the less un-comfortable looking me....the more loose and lively me........i just wish i could be the way i am at home etc...in public around girls......does this make any sense to anyone??.....

im not ugly , ive been told im hot by a few people (..im not big-headed..just going on vocal evidence)...so its not so much that girls are repulsed by me which would make my situation worse.....

i know..that if i was able to show my more energetic self around those people i wish i could show.....it would change me forever!..

i think its a confidence problem? my girl / friends that live a good distance away from me really really like me.....and the reason for that is that we communicate via the telephone mostly.......ya see??...because im not looking at them directly....i feel at ease....and i can talk about just anything...aaaahhh....sorry..im waffling now........anyone know what it might be??...thanks

[moimeme]

It's just that you're forgetting that girls are humans, too. Once you can keep that in mind, you'll be fine.

[dreaming4ever]

I kind of have the same problem. But it's not just with the opposite sex. It's with anyone I don't know well or feel completely comfortable with. Yet at times I can completely be my actual self around people I don't know, it depends what mood I'm in. It's like my inner self is really fun and outgoing and crazy but my outer self can be quiet and shy and reserved cuz I'm afraid. But once people get to know me well, all they see is my inner self because I'm not afraid to hide who I really am at all. It's strange. I try not to do it but it's hard. It's kinda funny too cuz my inner self talks a mile a minute to people and jokes around and my outer self is quiet and doesn't say much at all.

And I'm the same way as you about the phone...on the phone and the internet I can say anything to anyone and not feel weird. It's just in person that I get a little weirded out. My advice is to just force yourself to break out of your shell a bit like i'm trying to....Good luck!!