MY girlfriend and i are on a break...fine whatever we are broken up...but she was all i had since my best friend moved for a job....now i have nothing and i often resort to talking to her telling her how sad i am and such being all needy to her. i know this is unhealthy because shes never gonna see me in a good light then if im all sad and she wont wanna be with me.

I need to start making friends and meeting new girls, seeing what else is out there....
I dont know where to go what to do..im pretty shy and i live in a small town....

This just sucks the only kind of girl i want is her...

[morrigan]

Sorry about your breakup. It gets lonely when you break up with someone you thought of as a good friend.

Small towns often lack for places to meet new people. Do you live near any larger cities? Go to a concert and see a band you like. Take up a physical activity--walking, running, biking--or get a membership to a gym. If you get along with anyone you work with, ask them to go out to lunch or a weekend activity with you. Go to a larger library or bookstore--it's always good to talk to people who like the same kind of literature you do. It will take initiative on your part, but getting to know someone new and looking forward to having fun with them is worth it.

[red-rose-in-winter]

Living in a small town can limit the amount of people you meet, but I also live in a small town and we have festivals and "get-togethers" during the spring, summer, and fall. Try going to one of these festivals and just walking around with a co-worker that morrigan mentioned, just to get aquainted with new people in your town.
If you live in the South like me, I know you have classic car shows, Saturday night races, and county fairs. Those can be great places to meet new people.
Get out and meet your neighbors ~ just by talking to them you might learn of a visiting granddaughter that is coming to visit for the summer that needs some company.

It took me 3 months of talking online with this girl for me to work up enough courage to go on a date....no girl will ever be that patient again

[sanjnyc]

dude, just get out there. Do you work? go to school? Just try to strike up conversation with people you come across in you daily life. I know its hard but what will you lose??????