i've been best friends with this girl for 12 years. we haven't talked in a few years and we started talking again a few months ago. she's been with this guy for the last 2 years but he was away for a year and there always on and off. i met him and hated him. she went on vacation and i hung out with him every day. now we're together and we're getting married next may.
she was always playing him out and he'd always kiss her a**. now he's not and he told her he's with someone else and now she wants to be with him and doesnt understand why its really over. she thinks i told him something so shes a little mad at me. but she has no idea that i'm the one he's with or that we're planning our wedding. me and her used to see eachother everyday and talk all day long on the phone.
she's been back over a month and i've talked to her about 5 times and haven't seen her at all. i'm trying to distance myself from her and i have been. she has no idea and i feel really bad. i never would do anything like this especially to her. i've always been there for her. i know i'm gonna lose her and i wish things were different.
i never meant for this to happen and neither did he. but i do strongly believe that everything happens for a reason and now i'm gonna spend the rest of my life with him. i don't know how to tell her but i dont want her to find out from anyone else. please help me.
guilty and ashamed but happy
Last edited by LoveShack.org Moderator; 7th May 2004 at 12:47 AM..
I think that this is one of those scenarious that with choice comes consequences. By marrying, you will most likely lose your friendship of 12 years and you will have to live with that. My advice to you is that I would try to communicate to your friend in the kindest and most remorseful possible way as to not damage them any more then necessary. Good Luck.
Why one would possibly need enemies when exist such friends?
Tell her as soon as possible, but don't expect the friendship to be possibly saved.
Acting like you are really sorry is a good idea, but don't expect your friendship will resist such a blow. She might end up hating you no matter *how*you tell her.
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