[dumbstruck]

anyone....male or female....insite please!
have any of you ladies ever been called
"mommy"
by a guy you just confessed your crush on?
and he calls you "mommy" after you beat yourself up for being stupid
since he told you he was "falling in love" with someone else?
i just did.
also.... he proceeds to say no other guy will ever relate to me
like he can....and that i am his friend....HIS. (he typed "you're my friend. mine." in this email i got)
is this territorial...? possessive......???
considering it was expressed after i informed him i went
on a casual dinner with a mutual friend of mine and his.....
he also said he wants to
come out and see me soon (we are long distance)
to give me the biggest hug
ever..."until we're both red and wet."
ending with his confession that he
didn't have the balls to respond to my confession to liking him "yet".....
but he "digs me."
we've known each other almost two years...and emailing for close to a year....
we were flirty and started confiding
in each other on some things, up until he started falling for this other girl,
like, outta nowhere.

what the hell is going on?? all of my friends are telling me to steer clear of my once
head over heels crush...now
turning into a surreal drama!!
any advice...help!

[hART]

Don't wait for him forever, don't reject him if you still like him and don't do anything that compromises yourself for him.
Let him contact you first.
If he asks, tell him how you feel about him.

You will find other guys and deserve to be loved.

It's hard to accept that someone you connected to isn't there, but you will connect with other people and have friends who have some good advice.

[Bobbie]

a puerto rican guy I know calls me 'momma' sometimes as a mark of affection ( I would hope! )

In Britain sometimes I've heard longstanding husbands/ wives address or describe each other as mother and dad.

'Mommy' though?
Never heard that one.

[dumbstruck]

thanks, bobbie and hART....
this has been such a brain-wracking and obscure
development....
and alot of my friends who had been rootin' it on at the very beginning
all got a bit creeped out and a bit worried
for me by this guy's
sudden semi-perverted booty-kissin'.
i have only heard my great-grandma, who is a 90 year old
powerhouse call my great-g'pa "dad".....but they have been
married for sixty friggin' years!! *sheesh*!!!

i am unsure why he would wanna still see me
and why he's comming off possessive?
i sent him an email stating i would be his friend, along with
my "i like you more than i should" speech....and he is telling me to
not back off....

is this a "Danger!! Danger" alert here?? any more insite??
thanks again!!

did he say Mami or mommy? latin (and now it seems other types of men) are using this as a form of endearment. Like "Que bonita eres Mami" or something like that....it seems to be catching on in hip hop songs and stuff like that but if he called you Mommy in the sense of the word "mother" eew that would be a little freaky....he doesn't sound too scary (at least I don't think) he sounds confused like maybe he is trying to keep you around in case the other girl rejects him which is totally wrong but why be second choice I say be buds with him and watch his behavior..if he becomes weirder then back away.....just watch for warning signs like him becoming controlling, ect........

oops didn't see the remark bout the puerto rican guy or wouldn't have repeated it

[dumbstruck]

thanx for your insite, miz barby!
it was "mommy", hon....
actually, i work alongside some latin sweeties, and
i was told that usually married couples do that....
or "he really really likes you....alot!"
ironic you mentioned hip-hop....this guy is an expertwith that matter.
i dunno...and i wasn't certian why he would be so nervous to talk to
me....and i ain't gonna be no sloppy seconds!
i couldn't help but drop him a "hey" today....
i haven't heard anything since monday
and i hadn't written anything since monday....
i tend to be the icebreaker.
i'm just still confused....i've been single almost a YEAR now!

Nothing wrong with saying "hey" you were friends to begin with and I understand that you don't wanna be sloppy seconds.....who would? Maybe he needed some time to absorb what you told him...

[tattoomytoe]

So he said "hey mommy, i dig you? what was the context?

1) He's openly admitted to you that he's falling (or has fallen) in love with someone else...therefore, he's not available.

2) He referred to you as "Mommy".....and you're sitting there puzzling over the context of same, and WHY he would say this. Does it even really matter? He's obviously into someone. Why not invest your time and energy in someone who's "available" and who doesn't call you Mommy. Let go of the drama. Move on.

[tattoomytoe]

Originally posted by befuddled11
1) He's openly admitted to you that he's falling (or has fallen) in love with someone else...therefore, he's not available.

2) He referred to you as "Mommy".....and you're sitting there puzzling over the context of same, and WHY he would say this. Does it even really matter? He's obviously into someone. Why not invest your time and energy in someone who's "available" and who doesn't call you Mommy. Let go of the drama. Move on.

like you can even know that he has really found someone else.... guys tell you things to try an make you jealous too. or maybe thare is someone he likes, but she doesn;t even know that he's alive.

just remain his friend...ask him why he called you mommy(maybe you were telling how to do something, or treating him condescendingly)

[dumbstruck]

well....i see where the context gets confusing...he called me this
oddball name after i appologized for coming off too strongly
for exposing the heart on my sleeve.
i hadn't heard from him
in a few days since he was overseas for a month.
i made my note casual, i am hip with friends....and "don't say
you want to come out to see me if it's out of guilt
and if you really want to steer clear for a while."

he wrote that it's cool that i still dig him.
here's the slap:
he wants to see me this coming month....
since he "might" be out here to see a show
that the girl he's begun seeing is perfoming in...on a "possible" night....
he asked me what i was doing that night....
and if i could "deal with him being a groupie."

i feel so stupid....but played with the idea of dressing to kill
and leaving with a hot woman from the bar.

The guy has a girlfriend, or at least, another girl he's "seeing." Stop making yourself appear desperate. This whole situation is really quite boring.

why would leaving with a hot girl from the bar make him jealous?

[dumbstruck]

heeeey...
i had believed this was a place to ask for some insite....
not to be told how boring the scenario is....
pretty simple....don't drop any help if there is none.
i cramped the situation in as few words as i could, since many
don't take moments to read stranger's diatribes.
and
i am simply attemtping
to be certian that i understand ***why in the hell this
guy would want to invite me out
as a third wheel.....especially after i confessed my crush rather
blatantly***
or, since he called me mommy...might need a chaperone.
like, rub this girl in my face??? if he's so nice and ****ing cool???

the hot woman thing was a joke....hence the sacrastic laughing icon.
this back and forth has been happening for a while,
(i've known him for close to two years....)and
we were starting to flirt
via email and over the phone...on top of it, i met this guy through
an ex of mine...and i have been a single chica for almost a year....
since most people have no real compassion. (obviously)

this new girl came outta nowhere....he was able to tell me about two other chicks
he had been sleeping with and how unhappy he was in many
ways....to all of a sudden..."come out and see me and this other girl."
...after i said, "hey, i like you more than i should, and will back off for your sake."
and he goes to say i make him nervous, i am perfect in multitudes of
ways....i'm hot....
he has said: "hold my hand. scratch the spot i can't reach while i
shovels the driveway.
just because we are crazy, deosn't mean we can't rule the world."
has anyone caught the "you're my friend. MINE." line?
hug 'til we're both "red and wet"??