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Old 27th April 2004, 12:02 PM   #1
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UPDATE...Told Fiancee' I'm not ready to get married...engagement is off...

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UPDATE...Told Fiancee' I'm not ready to get married...engagement is off...

She was destroyed...I feel terrible but I think Im doing the right thing...

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Old 27th April 2004, 12:49 PM   #2
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have you told anything Else yet?

But i think it is a respectable thing to do, to tell hera nd not sneak around and pretend. Kudos for that!
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Old 27th April 2004, 1:55 PM   #3
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You are doing the right thing, even though it was going to hurt her feelings. Just try to be as amicable as possible towards her--you both need to not see eachother for a while. Good luck.
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Old 27th April 2004, 3:17 PM   #4
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It has hurt my feeling to...remmeber, I still care for her and love her...it was killing me to see her upset...****, she has to call her parents and tell them and cancel things for our July 2005 Wedding...

I'm just not ready to get married...

But I think I still want to be with her...but not right now...sounds strange but
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Old 27th April 2004, 3:56 PM   #5
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Yes, kudos for breaking off the engagement (you seemed really torn in your first thread, and I don't think anyone deserves to be with someone with such conflicting thoughts, nor does anyone deserve to feel so guilty for having such thoughts - as much as it hurts, you're probably both better off right now.)

So, what about the 18-year-old? Is she still in the picture?

Also, you need to come to face with the fact that you've probably lost your fiancee forever. You say you want to be with her, but depending on what you told her when you broke it off, or how much you told her, she probably doesn't want to be with you.

I wish you happiness and contentment when you settle down after you sew your wild oats, but you probably blew it with your ex-fiancee.
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Old 27th April 2004, 5:28 PM   #6
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18 year old is still there...I think about her all the time but havent talked to her in a week just to clear my head before talking with my ex-fiancee'
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Old 28th April 2004, 12:09 PM   #7
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HEYYYYYY.....good for you! You did the right thing, given that you can not stay away from the 18 year old.

I'm amazed that someone actually TOOK our advice.
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