one night stand

kagome · 6th April 2004, 1:27 AM

ok im rcently divorced and met a guy had a one night bstand with him. it was understood that at this point and time thats all i wanted. now he's being weird. we would talk alot for but now no communication from him. although i'm not looking for a relationship with him i think hes really cool and would like to be friends. right now i'm looking to enjoy being single and have other dates not one nighters lined up. what should i do? its not like we've known each other a long period of time but i am at a loss. i do not regret one minute of what i did but i dont like not being liked either.

Vivid_29 · 6th April 2004, 1:40 AM

Speaking from experience, there was a time in my life, where I behaved as he is. I don't know what causes it, but I remember having a one night stand and afterwards, she and I were never the same. Things just didn't seem to be right between us and we cut all contact.

I don't know why I felt the way I did -- maybe it was the initial shock of being friends and then actually going through with it all.

~V

kagome · 6th April 2004, 1:50 AM

i guess that makes sense. do you think i should let him know no hard feelings and send him on his way?

priscilla · 6th April 2004, 2:05 AM

Sounds like he wanted more than a one night stand and that is why he got all weird. I think it is very hard to just be friends after having sex. Too many feelings get involved most of the time either with both or one person. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him what is going on, but I don't know if you can be just friends, and I don't think he would be too thrilled to know you are dating others, even though you made it clear in the beginning.

OrlandoGirl · 7th April 2004, 4:55 AM

that's a hard one..had the same thing happen to me. I just blew him off though, I was young and dumb.. looking back, I'd say..just explain what's going on in your head and do what makes you feel comfortable.

Dug · 7th April 2004, 8:41 AM

I think you should at least try to talk to him. Heaven forbid, but he might be feeling dirty. Not all guys carry their brains and feelings in their pants ya know.

rvanne77 · 7th April 2004, 6:22 PM

It is almost impossible to go backwards in a relationship, no matter how much we would like to.

Dug · 8th April 2004, 8:44 AM

rvanne77........and that is the most painful realization most of us will ever face...Amen.