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Old 17th March 2004, 1:41 PM   #1
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Question for WOMEN only..... It's a Wife issue.
Question for the married women...

My husband of 3 years, has days every now and than that he does Speed, close our bedroom door, he's up all night watching porn, looking at his porn magazines.

He says all men do that.

Does yours?

Thanks for answering...

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Old 17th March 2004, 1:47 PM   #2
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No, my husband does not do speed, and never stays up all night watching porn. He does look at porn a bit.

The real question is whether this bothers you. If so, it doesn't matter who else does or doesn't do it.

Does this behavior cause problems in your marriage?
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Old 17th March 2004, 2:14 PM   #3
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ask your father, your uncle, maybe your brother if they do that. what a load of crap! effectively delivered by an addict!
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Old 17th March 2004, 3:25 PM   #4
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Well considering I'm a man, I might be somewhat qualified to answer. My answer is, no not all men do speed and watch/read porn all night. Read/watch porn occasionally yes. Obsessively while doing drugs..no. He has a serious problem.
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Old 17th March 2004, 11:02 PM   #5
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No my partner does not do that. I certainly do not think all men do.
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Old 20th March 2004, 11:07 AM   #6
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NO, my husband doesn't do speed, or any other drugs. He doesn't stay up all night looking at porn either!!!
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Old 20th March 2004, 4:43 PM   #7
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I am not married but in a long term committed relationship.

My BF reads PlayBoy...but that's about it. I read it too.

And he NEVER does speed. Just a beer or two at night. Speed is way too hard core and addicting...I would be very upset if I knew he was doing that
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Old 20th March 2004, 4:59 PM   #8
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My husband has never done speed or stayed up all night watching porn. I don't think he even looks at porn (except involuntarily on the net), but I don't really care if he does, since it has no detrimental effect on us.
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Old 21st March 2004, 2:46 AM   #9
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No. He does tons of other stupid stuff, but looking at porn all night is not one of them.
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Old 21st March 2004, 1:42 PM   #10
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Married_Woman,

I have been married for 4 years and my husband does not do that. In fact, I know of no man or woman, that does. I hope our responses so far has shed some light for you.
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Old 21st March 2004, 2:56 PM   #11
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I would think doing speed while clicking on porn all night would be EXHUASTING!

Only YOU can be in a position to evaluate if this is a relationship you want to remain in. I sure wouldn't. A little of this and that is acceptable. If it's interupting your normal relationship though.....it needs to be addressed. I would NOT consider it NORMAL!
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Old 21st March 2004, 11:31 PM   #12
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My husband says it's normal. A man thing!
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Old 21st March 2004, 11:39 PM   #13
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This poster says another NO on the speed and another NO on the staying up alnight reading/watching porn.
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Old 22nd March 2004, 2:57 PM   #14
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Hun. Get this guy help. Now. Or you will end up as Desperately_Unhappy_Married_Woman.

This is not normal behavior, especially if he says it is. Porn is unnatural and speed... well, let's just say that I have seen what drug addiction can do to a marriage and a family and you do not want to go there.
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Old 11th March 2005, 4:44 AM   #15
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Re: Question for WOMEN only..... It's a Wife issue.
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Question for the married women...

My husband of 3 years, has days every now and than that he does Speed, close our bedroom door, he's up all night watching porn, looking at his porn magazines.

He says all men do that.

Does yours?

Thanks for answering...

D.
At the end of the day - if it bothers you and he doesn't stop - do something constructive about it!!!
Talk to him, talk to his friends, find out if there is an underlying issue maybe??
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