Married Two Months - Unsure/Scared Husband Pressuring Me

TexasGirl41

I dated my husband 7 months and he rushed me into marrying him. I tried to stall marriage due to cold feet and reservations but somehow he talked me into a quickie marriage.

We've been married two months and now he's demanding I move in with him. I get sick to my stomach thinking of living with him. We both have sons close in age and my son wants no part of that and says no way in hell he's moving in.

My husband is good to me but I wish I hadn't married him. I enjoy a relationship with him and love him to some extent but being married and living together makes me go into anxiety and panic attacks. There are alot of things about my husband that already drive me up the wall from his mannerisms to his mustache not being trimmed evenly and the fact his house is covered in dust, etc.

He's demanded that me and my son move in this weekend as it's already been two months. He's moved furniture around and made preparations for the moving van. I'm losing sleep - I can't go thru with this.

When I've told him about my concerns and reservations he's made big promises but is agitated and angry that we are not living together. He wants me living with him NOW!

I hate feeling nothing but total dread about living with him. I wish we were just dating and we never got married. I told him this but it went in one ear and out the other. He was engaged quickly before he met me and she moved in right away - the relationship fell apart and he said he rushed that "trying to fill a void".

Somehow I think he just wants a wife in his house and although he loves me he's wanting me there for the wrong reasons - if I move in I'll be miserable. I cried the night before we got married - I felt it was wrong and I feel it's even more wrong to move in with him. I love him but my feelings are too out of whack - my gut feelings are me and my son would move in with him and I'll be climbing the walls in misery.

I have a wonderful townhome and me and my son enjoy our peace and quiet - moving in with him and his son might be disasterous.

What do I tell him? He's threatening me if I back out of this move this weekend he'll be pissed. I've backed out twice before right at the last minute - I just freak out and can't do it. He isn't being patient anymore and I do care about him but know if I don't move in he's going to blow a fuse.

Then he'll probably suggest divorce and we'd get divorced. I am so confused and need some advice. He's a good provider and will take care of me and my son. I hate for this to be the reason I move in (for security).

Should I attempt to make this marriage work and hope for the best or follow my gut and not move in and wait a while. I have alot of reservations about him - he seems desperate to have a wife and someone to care for his son - I wonder if that's why he's so adamant about me moving in. Plus I'm not sure if I can totally trust him - he's got some weird moods and he seems to be a flirt and enjoys telling me things to make me jealous - I dunno - I have a blast with him and enjoy our relationship but not to the point of living with him as his wife.

I shouldn't have married him but I did - now what do I do since I don't want to move in to his house?