[Mnemosyne]

Hello, I've got a little problem per say.. not really a problem though.
Here it is:

I've recently been feeling attracted to one of my friends lately (she is the same sex as me-female-). Which i dont know how to react to because i've never felt sexually attracted to any women before, and she is the only one so far i've ever been attracted to. Sometimes I want to just kiss her but it also is very unnapealing to me to thinkabout doing anything more than that with her.. I've been attracted to guys for as long as i can remember. I've had boyfriends, and then suddenly i meet this girl and we've been friends for about 2 years and suddenly I just feel really attracted to her.. any advice? suggestions? im quite confused... and im afraid i might tell her without thinking the next time we go and drink together or what have you.. its really stressing me out and I dont know what to do. Sometimes I just want to tell her, but then i realize that things will probably be weird between us if i do. I really value her friendship and im fine with just being friends, but i feel so frustrated right now.. I mean, i saw Cold mountain with her the other day when we were hanging out and when she would lean over and make humorous comments about the movie, her hot breath on me would just kill me, i mean.. that alone freaks me out because not even when a guy breaths on me does it make me hot..

[longlegzs80]

Is your friend into women do you know? Has she made comments to make you think she is into women? I think if she has, it would be so much easier for you to come out and tell her that you find her attractive.

I really don't know what to tell you. Maybe this is just something where you find a women attractive and that is it. Have you felt like you wanted to go all the way with her? Now, as far as the kissing thing goes, I have known straight friends who have kissed and that was that. But, if you feelings are much much more, then I suggest you tell her. Just for your own sake. But realize, that you could be jepordizing the relationship that the both of you have as just being friends. You really need to talk to her about this. Or ask her some general questions about guys or dating or if she has ever thought about dating a women, or what her ideas on gays are or people that are bisexual?

I don't see you as being gay, but I think your curious, just like myself who would be curious, but I find kissing a women or doing anything to a women with being the same sex is not my cup of tea.

Well, hope this helps you out.

[Darkangelism]

Is it just curiosity or maybe you are bi. Either way, do what you feel is right, if you act on it, then good for you,if not thats good too.

[longlegzs80]

I think too if you can get a sense from your friend that she is interested in you like a man and a women is interested in eachother or even someone from the same sex, maybe she wants what you want but don't know how to bring it up.

Personally, I think you should tell her, and tell her that these feelings are recent and that you are straight but have been finding her very attractive. Attractive enough to the point where you are really into kissing her.

[Mnemosyne]

Hmm.. Okay well thanks for all of your replies, it helped and i'll see what i can do.. the only thing that worries me is that she used to tell me how she was really freaked out about waking up a lesbian one day when she was in middle school (so im not sure if she would take it well if i told her), although now she says she comfortable enough with her sexuality that she doesnt worry at all.. She's the kind of person who flirts with anyone.. haha if it means anything, she's spoken about how having a threesome with another girl and her boyfriend wouldnt bother her in the least bit, so it doesnt seem like she's freaked out about doing sexual things with other girls.. but anyway, I think it's just a little fantasy i've developed or something, knowing it will never happen but still into it because its nice to think about. When I see her i'm not as attracted to her as when i just think about her.. or maybe that's just me getting nervous because i'm actually near her. Anyway I don't know.. If I tell her it'll probably be when we get drunk or something 'cause she's done quite a bit of things with her female friends while intoxicated. Haha for all i know, when we're drunk ill probably get her to kiss me or something.. **** i dunno, but whatever i guess.. We'll see how it goes. Oh, and yeah, I dont find going any further then kissing appealing in the least bit, not at all.. but for some reason kissing her doesnt bother me, when anything further then that would not be in my taste.. oh.. i'm not sure if i mentioned this either, but she has a current boyfriend and they've done just about everything together, if that says anything about her sexual preferance.