My wife of six months continues to have frequent contact with her ex. They have a 4 year-old son together which the father rarely sees due to his drinking. My wife calls her ex. 2-3 times a week, sometimes as often as 10-12 times a week. Since we have been married, she has called her ex. over 100 times (I have checked phone records). She never calls him in my presence and when he calls her in my presence, she refuses to answer the phone. I have heard her say to him that one reason that she doesn't bring their son to see him is that "when I see you, it's not that easy just to walk away." We have fought over these calls and she has agreed that she shouldn't talk to him so much. However, this only lasts for a while and she returns to her pattern of frequent calling.


Am I being unreasonable in my requests for my wife to limit her contact with her ex. to child-related issues? Also, I know the answer is obvious, but I need objective minds to my eyes as to what is up between my wife and her ex.

[SoleMate]

Am I being unreasonable in my requests for my wife to limit her contact with her ex. to child-related issues?
No, it's quite reasonable.

what is up between my wife and her ex?
It's quite clear that she still has feelings for him. Sounds like his drinking may have split them up, but the feelings remain, on her side at least. You may be the rebound guy.

If I were in your shoes, I would seriously consider giving her an ultimatum with conditions about limiting contact, making calls and visits only in your presence, etc. She won't agree, or will agree and then violate the terms. Then I would start divorce actions...

I rarely advise divorce on Loveshack - maybe 5-10% of cases. Here I think it's the right choice because you and your wife have so little holding you together (???), and so much pulling you apart (the ex, the feelings, the kid).

Good luck with whatever path you choose to follow.

Hello,

Your wife of 6 months might not be physically cheating on you but she is certainly emotionally cheating on you. It is ridiculous for this to be happening. It sounds like she still loves him and wants to be with him. If she is not serious being a wife to you that I would strongly suggest looking into an annulment. It does not sound like your wife is exclusive to you. I think you made a mistake here since your wife is not serious about being exclusive to you. Look into your legal options. I wish you luck.

[metal_chik]

Now I could totally deal with the calls about the kid, but it's awful d*mn funny that she talks to him that much but won't even answer the phone when ur around. I agree with everybody else, she's still hooked on the ex and from the sounds of it i'd get out quick before u get too attached.