[Neo]

Alright. I would appreciate it if everyone who views this would briefly comment on certain things...

First off, think of all your past relationships -- just view them all as one amalgamation and please tell me:



-Are girls attracted to really nice guys, nice guys, neutral guys, people that are somewhat of a jerk, or hardcore jerks... does this change with time? What is the reasoning behind this?

-Does money matter? Poor, average, rich? What's your desired threshold or tolerable bracket?

-How much attention is enough? Constant, frequent, normal, occasional, seldom, or never? What yields good results here...

-Are girls attracted to guys who are funny? If this is so, like, how funny would they have to be?

-Is confidence really that important? Can anyone define this any further and how to separate it from arrogance? Or is arrogance sometimes a good thing?



-Lastly, I am a 17 year old high school student who has only had one girlfriend in the past for two weeks, and a really close relationship which never materialized into a true "romantic relationship," which failed because I was accused of being too shy. I would give anything for a close relationship where I could be free and devoid of nervousness but it is difficult, but mainly around that particular girl (why this is so I currently do not understand). I'm in the IB program at school and currently have a 4.0 GPA, and I also have a reputation of being one of the smartest at school (even though that subject in itself can be debated but that's besides the point here...). Do I have a chance at true love soon? The question itself is asinine but I ask you to derive such an answer from what I have said thus far, which is very little but nevertheless I implore you to go off of this impression, I suppose.

Sorry for this convoluted and disorganized post but I would really appreciate your thoughts and opinions!

[moimeme]

The thing about your questions, Neo, is that the answer is 'all of the above'. There are women that like rich, aloof jerks and women who like rich nice funny aloof guys and women who like poor funny jerks who like constant contact. Ther is no one template for 'ideal man'.

Be who you are. Then look for the woman who is looking for who and what you are. Nothing else will do.

[Marty_McFly]

Moimeme is right.

Do I have a chance at true love soon?

You're young enough that you really don't have to worry about it too much right now. I too was very smart in high school, and considered a decent-looking, "nice" guy. However, I never had a relationship or even kissed a girl in high school. But when I got to college, it was a much different story. I certainly dated my share of women in college. That's when you meet girls that are a little more mature, and ones who begin to appreciate intelligence and other things in a man rather than looks alone. Right now, you should just continue to try to understand and develop who you are, and continue to develop new and existing friendships so that your personality can grow and you will be ready when the opportunities come along.

[Darkangelism]

Girls like sorts of guys, you always have a chance, your only 17, i have friends who are 21 and havnt had a gf.


Just go out talk to girls and be visible and you will find someone.

[Arabess]

I agree with all the other posters.....you've just got to be YOU!

I could draw out a blue-print of the perfect guy.....but you know what.....someone completely different than my blue print may come along and sweep me off my feet. The heart has a mind of it's own. Trying to be anything other than what you really are....will never assure you that the person really just loves 'YOU'.