[xalysabethh]

Ok It finnanly hit me like a train.. as to what i am doing. i'm seperated from my husband adn got involved with this really really great guy who is a single dad to 3 kids. he is totally in love with me etc.. but i am feeling so much pressure because his kids are getting to attatched to me, i feel like a babysitter or there mother not his girl friend.. and i still have unresolved issue as to the future with my husband. its a mess. i am ashamed that i am in this situation. so now i have to get out of it. I have a lot of anxiety aobut endign this, this guy has been hurt 3 times really bad by girls in his life and it took a lot for him to let go fo that and us to hook up i thought i ws doing the right thing.. now i see i didnt . i am so lost as to where to even start. any ideas? i care about hi m alot and am sad it has come to this but i got myslef in this mess. Thanks
Xalysabeth

[tattoomytoe]

how long have you been seeing dad?

[xalysabethh]

i've been dating him since oct serious since dec

[tattoomytoe]

well ya'll aren't living together are you?
i would try to break it off in a way that didn't involve the kids, even though that is one of the major factors, but having him blame his kids for failed relationships prob. wouldn't be to healthy for them. could you tell him that you have started reconciling with the ex? i do not know if that is possible or not. or do just tell him the truth, that it is way too much for you. personally i would think he would have kept his kids out of it for a good while, but.... just tell him it was nice , but you still are married and all. try not to make yourself feel like sucjh a heel, dumping people is usually not too fun.

[Errol]

Try telling him that you do care about his feelings and you are sincerly sorry about hurting him, but that you simply can not do right by him now and that it is unfair to everyone involved to continue trying.

He's going to be hurt any way you do it. Good luck