[tonyeltiger]

Ok, I'm still new to this posting thing so please bear with me.

I've been with this girl for 3 1/2 months and things have been going great . I've never thought about the posibility of her not caring for me because we are usually pretty open with each other about our feelings. We have also been in some pretty serious make-out sessions. But our relationship is definately not soley based on physical stuff. We have talked on the phone for 4 hours strsight without even really realizing it.

The Reason that I am writing is because latley I've been wondering if I care more for her than she does for me. I don't really know why though. I guess it's partly because I always seem to have to start anything physical like kissing or even hugs or whatever. And also she sent me an internet survey with the question "have you ever been in love?" and she had the answer "not really". I know she probally didn't mean anything by it, but I know that I'm in love with her. And it just kinda hurt to see that kind of an answer.

And now any thought of saying "I love you" are out of my mind because evidentally she doesn't feel the same way. She's told me that she "really cares" about me, and "I can't imagine being with anybody else" in letters which I usually find comforting, but it still hurts to see that she doesn't want to pop the "L" word. I guess what I'm asking is to please kinda analize my situation, and tell me if I'm freaking out over nothing or If I should be worried. Or the girls could tell me what they think she's trying to say(if anything at all) Thanks guys for your help.

I don't think she's trying to drop any hints that she isn't happy with you. You guys sound like you have a great relationship right now. Some people fall in love more easily/faster than others. I don't think its anything for you to sweat.

And now any thought of saying "I love you" are out of my mind because evidentally she doesn't feel the same way.

This is a hard thing to do sometimes. You know that quotation: "If you love someone, you tell them. Right then. Or else, the moment just passes you by." I tend to think more along those lines. However: If you tell her and she completely freaks out and thinks you're trying to pressure her, then... You didn't get the above advice from moi. I really think the chances of that happening are slim though. Good luck to you.

-Deranged

[jmargel]

Don't sweat it. Its normal for you to fall in love with her, and her maybe not feel the same right now. That doesn't mean she won't ever. Also, maybe she's waiting for you to say it. My suggestion would be to give her a card, write something small in it, and at the end say 'I love you'. See what her reaction is. Giving her a rose while doing this won't hurt either.

[jennifer05]

Girls love it when guys say "i love you" first or make the first move, it makes them feel special and we know if you make the first move you're thinking about us. If i was you, i would ask her, just to make sure. But I'm pretty sure its just that she likes the way she feels when you do things first.

[tonyeltiger]

Hey, thanks alot guys. I think it helped me out alot. So I guess I'll just give it some time and wait for things to hapen on their own. Thanks for your replies!

[calithin83]

well ok this is my pouint of view-coming from a girl...ive dated my bf for 3 years now and at the beginning when we first met he was really LOVING and affectionate we also would talk for 4 hours strait sometimes even more, and would sleep talking and yet have to wake up the next day for school.....I really liked him but did not love him yet..he had to initate the hugging and kissing cos i was shy.... but with time and when he first told me he loved me (6 months later) i knew i loved him too...
just give her time, if she really cares about u then it means she can also one day love u, dont rush it..ure barely 3 months together.... just try not to seem so needy cos that can be a turn off, and dont say "i love you" until a long time, wait 2 months or so, she most likely will apprecioate it more that way....
hope thios helps