do u think u could follow thru with it? Ive been asked to do a couples thing. me and the guy im seeing and anothr couple. but the guys want us women to be into each other. more then kissing......im really nervous. im not bi and not attracted to women but I think because it would get the guys going so good i might do it. would that make me bi then?
Not to barge in or anything, but I was with a girl who was bi-sexual for 5 years and because I had never experienced that aspect of sexuality it was at first a turn-on because early in our relationship we had no "ties".
But I'll tell ya...after we were a couple, and a year or two down the road, we had a few more girl/girl/guy encounters and maybe I'm embarrassed to say, it was really hard for me to not feel weird about it. Not weird about being in front of another girl...etc, etc. Just that I felt it kinda affected our relationship. Like it wasn't as respected.
I think alot of your concern could be as to how open sexually you two are, and if you could handle seeing him have sex w/someone else etc.
Well...i dont have any problems with seeing him do it. i just got together with him for 3 weeks now. its just something i kinda wanted to try but i cant do anything with a woman i just wouldnt feel right. im kinda answering my own questions here...lol. I guess the bottom line is im straight and cant get passed that fact. I dont know.
3 weeks ins't even enough time to know him. If you want to do it, you should. When it happened to me the first time it was exciting! My thought was say if you had been together a lot longer THEN tried something like that it might funky out your relationship.
A word of warning: I knew my girl in my last relationship was bi-sexual - I didn't handle it well at times - she handled it just fine - If you keep seeing this guy, know he will probably always want this element in your relationship with him - if you do too - fine - if not, beware!
You wouldn't sleep with a guy you weren't attracted to.
Why would you think you should with a woman.
Doing it just to please him is not a good idea.
What about the other couple.
Is the guy cute?
I'm bi-sexual. My boyfriend has NO problem with it, he is rather turned on by it actually. (If you go back to my posts about jealousy and myself not having a past where as he does - I strictly do, but it was with a woman so we don't really consider that the same issue - I'm sure you understand why that is also).
I've had my experience with women, and I enjoyed it. I've also experienced things with my man, and I enjoy that also. If I didn't have him, then I'd be attracted to both men and women (duh).
We've talked about threesomes a little bit, but we'd never have one - it's more down to him than me. He thinks I'd love it, and feels sometimes guilty that I'm 'missing out' on something I enjoy but I really do not. Because I love him with all my heart and I don't need a female to feel sexually complete. I have him, and I don't really want to share him with anyone.
I'd NEVER ask for a threesome with another man, although I have to say I have thought about it, because I wouldn't like it. As myself and Thinkalot have talked about, I am so lucky not to have any empty sexual experiences with men and I would not like to change that by letting another man who I feel nothing for sleep with me. Another woman...considering my insecurites, my boyfriends' past, my jealousy problems...I don't think that would be a good idea at all. I may enjoy the THOUGHT of it, I wouldn't do it though, it would definitely rip us apart.
It is all down to personal preference and sexual open-ness. To me, threesomes with a couple are just bad news. I've never known any couple to have not suffered strain on their relationship through this, bi-sexual or not.
Dyer - this thread isn't about bi-sexuality. It's about how bi-sexuals view threesomes with their partners. I can see why someone would ask this, because to a straight male/female, it would seem to them that a bi-sexual female would not be as bothered as a straight female to see their partner sleeping with another woman, because they would 'get off' on it too. That isn't strictly the case, and I hope my views have helped you almostthere.
I can understand someone being gay. They have an 'emotional' attraction and need for love from the same gender. If someone is 'bi' though.....then is this just about 'sex'? I don't believe you can 'love' both ways.....I think you just enjoy 'sex' both ways.
I wouldn't be in a relationship with a guy who professed to be 'bi'. I think men are much more prone to accept the concept of a woman being 'bi'.
Then again....maybe I'm just not progressive enough. LOL!
I can understand someone being gay. They have an 'emotional' attraction and need for love from the same gender.
Yes, and you're saying that some people cannot be more open-minded and look for emotional attraction and need for love from both genders?
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If someone is 'bi' though.....then is this just about 'sex'? I don't believe you can 'love' both ways.....I think you just enjoy 'sex' both ways.
Of course you can 'love' both ways. Some people are attracted to people, regardless of their gender. Yes, I suppose bi-sexuals do enjoy 'sex' both ways, but that doesn't mean it's just about the 'sex', just that you're more open with your sexuality and willing to try different things.
From the tone of this post, it seems to me that you disagree with people being bi-sexual because it's not one thing or the other. Not everything is black and white.
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Bisexuals are perfectly capable of monogamy.
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