[Guidette82]

Okay, so last night I am at the bar, (I am, sad to say, a regular) the bartender comes over to me and hands me a shot from "Scott". I had drank enough at that point, so I politely went over to him and said "thank you, but I have been drinking a LOT tonight and if I drink this, I KNOW I will puke"..my friend and I sat down with him and his two friends and one of them, Joe, asked for my number (many times). Personally I was intersted more in Scott. As we were talking, he mentioned that he knew I was a regular because he had seen me several times, but I was always "unapproachable looking"....during our conversation, Joe told my friend that Scott was just a playa and that he has a girlfriend. My friend approached Scott on it and he denied it. She was real drunk and got a little fiesty with him, claming "your friend said you were, why the h*ll would I believe you saying you aren't"..he tried to defend himself, but she wouldn't listen, so he said to me "I'm gonna run to the bar, do you want anything?" He came back and I had gotten up to run to the restroom. So, on my way back, he stopped me and said: " I am leaving, but can I give you my number? I would take yours but I broke my phone tonight. I am gonna go get a new one tomorrow, so call me in the afternoon, ok?" I hugged him and he left. Now the question is: Do I call? Is it possible Joe lied because I didn't give him my number? Would a guy really rat out his friend like that??? Should I just go for it and see how it goes??

[crysiet]

Ask yourself how well you know this guy. Thats the only way to tell.

[sarah12]

I say don't call. If you are a regular and so is he, you will run into him again. And when that happens, maybe you can talk to him some more and find out what he's like (assuming you are sober) and decide from there. If he really likes you, he will go to the bar knowing that you go regularly.

[Guidette82]

Oh, I don't know him at all. I just met him that night. He seemed really nice, but I don't know. According to some of my guy friends, guys will lie about their friends to try to compete...OUCH..so maybe his friends was lying..dunno! He asked me to go back to the bar Saturday b/c his band plays up there on Sat's, but I was too tired from the night before.

[dlb311]

I say call. He asked you to call. If he has a girlfriend you will find out. Look for the signs like not always available or not answering when you call everytime.
I met a guy at a bar two weeks ago. he got my number and called a few days later we talk every single day since we meet. he was burned in his last relationship so we are taking things real slow. But I am so glad he called.
My adivce is not to call him today or right away call him in a few days. And just look for signs he has a girlfriend but don't demand that he has one. Some guys are gross like that and have girlfriends and cheat. if he wants you to go see his band dont you think his girlfriend would go see his band. I think you shoudl take the chance.
Right now you have nothing to lose.

[Guidette82]

Thank you SO much for seeing it the way I do..LOL. I was thinking the same exact thing and wondered why I shouldn't call. If he has a g/f, HE is the scummy one..it's not like I knew and tried anyway...thanx for the input!