questions for all the bad boys out there (cmon, you know who you are!)
so, monsieurs bad boys, why is it that you find it so hard to committ to one lady? why do you jump from woman to woman for years on end, often your whole life, often even once married? can most of you be tamed? do you WANT to be tamed? do you screw around because you feel you haven't found "the one", or you want to do just that - screw around, not looking for anything deeper? anything else you'd like to share?
i understand that when guys start out, all they wanna do is have sex and explore - fine by me. but when they keep on screwing around for years on end, - it puzzles me. don't you want a life-partner?...
There are a number of reasons men jump from woman to woman. One is fear of commitment. One is fear of abandonment...for them it's easier to make relationships short and sweet than it is to chance being hurt. Another is immaturity...just not being ready. Just because a man skips around from woman to woman doesn't make him a bad boy, unless he's deceiving these ladies. I'd say that most of these men would give anything to have one great relationship if they could get over the psychological dynamics that keep them from doing so.
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a related question for saviours of bad boys:
really, most people can assess character pretty quickly. why would any woman attempt to lasso the bad boy for committment? there is no point. why live a life trying to change people instead of just appreciating them?
i have no idea why women torture themselves over so called bad boys. not everybody wants the american white-fenced and double-knit life; we assume that is the natural default choice, but it is not.
Just because a man skips around from woman to woman doesn't make him a bad boy, unless he's deceiving these ladies.
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In my experience, these men don't deceive directly, but they send ambiguous signals - those that an interested woman is likely to interpret as genuine interest, yet nothing's been directly said, so they cannot be blamed. Doesn't really matter if one calls them bad or not though, I guess.
I'd say that most of these men would give anything to have one great relationship if they could get over the psychological dynamics that keep them from doing so.
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Yeah, many seem to realize they're being idiots, but can't help it...
why live a life trying to change people instead of just appreciating them?
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good question =) i guess a part of it the challenge of lasso-ing a bad boy (i.e. nobody could tame him, but i did! kind of feeling). another part is that bad boys have had more experience w/ women and just know how to treat women smoothly, which is enjoyable. yet another part is that the bad boys seem to have more drive for life than other men - they give off that festive feeling of constant pursuit and excitement. i'm sure there're many more reasons they're attractive ... like perhaps some women are also afraid of committment.
why would any woman attempt to lasso the bad boy for committment
Ask Annette Benning.
Mind you, she can have him
Do some women seriously think to themselves, "Oooh...I'm gonna tame this one!" ?
Do some men seriously think to themselves "Oooh - she's not interested at all; I'm going to change HER mind"?
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why would any woman attempt to lasso the bad boy for committment
Well in my bro's case, a young handsome young man with lots to offer, he didn't want to settle with the wrong girl so in the meanwhile he played the field and had fun....then along came his future wife, she put him in his place and now he is a wonderful husband. Total change on his part, my whole fam. was like whoa....
Ok Yes - In regards to your question, some of these badguys can be tamed. My ex is a young, little girl, and has always chased the badguy. While in college, this girl pursued me for a couple of months and I found her so annoying, at first, but somehow, I fell for her, hard!
Just have the right attitude and we'll be wanting you, just as bad!
I can't speak for everyone, but I go through phases. Bad - not so bad - and then bad again. I guess it depends on the character of the woman.
We are always up for a challenge. Don't chase us; make us come to you! If we do not want you, brush it off and move onto the next. You have this type of attitude, you'll be that much more desireable! Show us a firm hand and don't act sappy and gay. Some of us will take advantage of that and walk all over you.
Oh by the way, I give advice to counter us guys, but for goodness sake, don't use it on me!
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