the this is i was just wondering what is the disadvantage of having a boyfriend who is not virgin . Is it natural to get frustated or jealous because he has been w/ girls?
I'm a virgin and my boyfriend is not. I was just wondering if is it okay to question ? I have a feeling that he will just want something else and that throws our relationship when i think about it.
How would a guy respect and date NOn-virgin gurls and virgins.
when a guy loses his virginity it's okay for them
but when girls lose them ..some people names them things like....dirty and stuff.
Is it normal to be jealous that your b/f had sex w/girls b/4 you?
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Why guys want to have sex w/virgins?
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Why people call them names?
I'm sorry I am not trying pick at your post but I read it several times and want to help you and give you some advice but I am not quite sure what exactly you are asking.
My studies point to the idea of male dominance. A virgin is a pure untouched creature. But once broken it's almost like handcuffs that you can't take off. By a guy not being a virgin and the girl being, it puts the guy in a position of power because there is almost and obligation to him. Guys like being in control sometimes. I don't want to be general and I am basing this on MY studies so its still my own pov.
I am going to tell you what I think and it may not matter to anyone but this is how I feel. I am a 21 year old virgin guy and I am not ashamed of it. I want to wait until I find a girl that means something to me. If I have to wait thats fine with me. I would like to find some who is either a virgin or who hasnt been with many partners. Thats how I feel. I think people can go without sex instead of sleeping with whoever they can.
I think purecountry just showed that your questions are subjective. It depends on the guy. Some guys like girls that are non-virgins and some guys don't. Some girls actually like guys that are virgins and some girls don't want someone "inexperienced". Is there still a double standard? Yeah, it's still there. When men sleep around their suppose to be don juans and romeos and cassanovas and "all that". Personally, I think a man that sleeps around with alot of women is as much a h** (rhymes with toe) as people feel women that sleep around are. I like a man that has that much self control over his body that he doesn't feel he has to stick himself into every woman that smiles at him or catch his eye.
About girls feeling jealous, yes some girls do get jealous and some men get jealous too, because once you become that close to a person, you want to share an intimacy with them that they hadn't shared with everyone else or anyone else. You want to feel special to them, and not like you're just another lover. I don't know what to say about your boyfriend. Some say that relationships in the past should be kept in the past, but sometimes it's best to know where people are coming from so you will know where you are going with them.
You might as will do it.....everyone else is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Isn't that what a first timer is thinking of anyway? After all first timers don't want to be left behind. But personally I think if you are not engaged or married or have some kind of deep comittment or love for that person you are just doing it becuase everyone else is.
I also think some guys like the fact about virgins for many reasons....virgins get attached very easily making the man feel more wanted ........they like to form virgins into what they like......virgins when attached are not as easily to cheat or walk into the bedroom with another guy.....and the part that they know they are disease free.
Oh and the most important one of all ....when you guys have a fight and he walks out he can cheat on you and he knows you will take him back. He also knows you will be just standing there waiting for him to walk through that door and not doing what he is doing.
An experienced girl would do exactly what he does. Cheat.
He also knows that a virgin is more likely to fall in love faster for him than he ever would back in return....this leaves the virgin helpless and when he wants sex he knows exactly how to lure her to give him what he wants. The only sad part about this is usually when a guy is really really experieced, love to him is hoping from one bed to the next.
People like virgins when they have low self-confidence and don't want to worry about being "compared". The irony is of course that the comparison almost never happens.
the this is i was just wondering what is the disadvantage of having a boyfriend who is not virgin . Is it natural to get frustated or jealous because he has been w/ girls?
It is natural to be jealous......but it is also normal for the jealousy feeling to disappear when you realize there's nothing to be jealous of.
I can't actually think of disadvantages of having a boyfriend that is not a virgin, unless for religious reasons /other reasons you are looking for a man who is 'untouched'.
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How would a guy respect and date NOn-virgin gurls and virgins.
I think both virgins and non-virgins should be respected!
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when a guy loses his virginity it's okay for them
but when girls lose them ..some people names them things like....dirty and stuff.
Right. *Some* people.
And those people, expecially if they are adults and not kids who just have some growing-up to do, it is better to stay away from.
In my experience, men who are not virgin themselves and would want a virgin are either unexperienced and are afraid of comparisons and worried that a lady who has had her share of experiences will get bored with them and will not have the patience to wait for them to get used to making love and get some experience with them, or have low self-esteem, or have middle-ages mentality.
While I have a deep respect for men who would have sex only after marriage, and are willing to wait themselves for the right person or at least not sleep around if they are not in love and expect the same thing from their partner,
I despise those who have big double standards like the above mentioned.
I've been on the boards before, I'm 24 and haven't had sex yet. I don't consider myself pure and untouched, I just haven't had actual sex yet. I haven't found someone I have completely entrusted with my body yet. Well, at 24, I certainly don't fall into this category:
virgins get attached very easily making the man feel more wanted
this one:
they like to form virgins into what they like (Yeah, good luck.)
"Oh and the most important one of all," this one:
when you guys have a fight and he walks out he can cheat on you and he knows you will take him back. He also knows you will be just standing there waiting for him to walk through that door and not doing what he is doing.
But this one cracked me up:
He also knows that a virgin is more likely to fall in love faster for him than he ever would back in return....this leaves the virgin helpless and when he wants sex he knows exactly how to lure her to give him what he wants. The only sad part about this is usually when a guy is really really experieced, love to him is hoping from one bed to the next.
How can you assume you can throw all of us into one group like that? I'm not trying to be nasty about this, but as someone who just wants to get it over with, I'm a little offended at the weak little lamb portrayal you have here. Or were you kidding the whole time?
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the this is i was just wondering what is the disadvantage of having a boyfriend who is not virgin . Is it natural to get frustated or jealous because he has been w/ girls?
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