I think I'm gay I had sex with a girl and i'm a girl ....

4th September 2003, 8:15 PM

I think I'm gay because i just moved to a new house and new school and I met this new girl and we become friends and I wen't over to her house one day and we went into her room and we started talking and then we started kissing and then we landed on her bed and her she started upbottoning my shrit and before I knew it we were both naked and doing it together and I woke up the next morning and was scared , I think I'm gay. help!

moimeme · 4th September 2003, 8:29 PM

You're not gay because you have sex with someone of your own gender. You're gay if you want to have sex with people of your own gender. It isn't the act which defines you, it's the inner feelings.

4th September 2003, 8:52 PM

ya but I well now that I've had sex with other girls since the day we did I've only had it once with another girl and now I'm getting scared I don't know why but i am

cindy0039 · 4th September 2003, 9:34 PM

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Originally posted by justmema16
ya but I well now that I've had sex with other girls since the day we did I've only had it once with another girl and now I'm getting scared I don't know why but i am

Can you explain what exactly it is that you're afraid of? Then maybe we can understand better and help you.

Jamie31 · 5th September 2003, 12:08 AM

Well, if it came that natural to you, then I would say you are gay. Does being gay frighten you or something? I mean, what exactly is your concern here? Maybe you are bisexual. Are you still attracted to men, also? Do you still want to have sex with girls all the time, or was that just a one time thing? All of these questions need to be answered to yourself before you can know for sure. But just judging what you have wrote so far, I would say that you are definitly bisexual at the least. I don't exactly know what your wanting help with, but I sympathize with you because if I had sex...no, scratch that, cause that would never happen...if I came close to having sex with another girl, I would want help too. It's just something you are going to have to work out on your own.

5th September 2003, 4:01 PM

Well I find that I am starting to like girls.

And I don't want to be gay. but I just can't stop

quankanne · 5th September 2003, 4:07 PM

being gay is WAY different from adopting a gay lifestyle, IMHO. Meaning, you might have certain feelings, but you are in no way required to act on those feelings.

cindy0039 · 5th September 2003, 5:01 PM

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Originally posted by quankanne
being gay is WAY different from adopting a gay lifestyle, IMHO. Meaning, you might have certain feelings, but you are in no way required to act on those feelings.

Oh my gosh, say what? You're gonna have to explain that one for me.

quankanne · 5th September 2003, 5:18 PM

this is going to get me in trouble with the religious right!!!!

being aware that you are gay or have homosexual feelings is way different from ACTING on those feelings, or practicing homosexuality. Because if you look at it as a question of morality (in my not-so-humble-opinion) feelings are not wrong, only the actions you take.

moimeme · 5th September 2003, 7:43 PM

There are a lot of us - even religious (or at least spiritual) people who believe that homosexual acts are not immoral. There are gay animals - obviously they have not 'chosen' to be gay. This is biology. If you have been born gay, then that is your lot in life and you may need to learn to deal with it.

5th September 2003, 8:05 PM

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Originally posted by memema16
Well I find that I am starting to like girls.

And I don't want to be gay. but I just can't stop

you know what, if you are gay, be it and be proud. seriously, i find it so saddening when someone is gay and doesnt want to be. please be proud or happy and just do what is natural to you.

5th September 2003, 8:22 PM

I guess I will be happy with it. I mean it's a good thing right? plus it does come natural to me....

Jamie31 · 5th September 2003, 8:24 PM

I wouldn't be happy about it if I were you....if you can stop it, please do. If you choose to live a gay lifestyle..you are in for a lot of hard and troubled times. Why do that to yourself?

jenny · 5th September 2003, 8:57 PM

please do not regard the last post.

you have the *right* to a fulfilling relationship and sex life.

it is not your responsibility to deal with other people's bigotry. screw 'em. period.

honey, there is a whole wide community of educated souls out there who will accept and celebrate who you are. depending on which area you are from, there is probably a GALA or Pride organization that you can contact for support.

xox, j

5th September 2003, 9:27 PM

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Originally posted by Jamie31
I wouldn't be happy about it if I were you....if you can stop it, please do. If you choose to live a gay lifestyle..you are in for a lot of hard and troubled times. Why do that to yourself?

i have to say this was a crappy post. gays are humans too and what did they ever do to you? nothing. geez....im a pretty closed minded person but gays are just as equal because they are HUMAN too.