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Hi, Im chinese and born fresh on the soils of North America...I wuz just wondering why not many Caucasian, black, spanish etc women choose asian men as lovers..Is it cuz of the way we look? Ive had other women of other nationalities interested in me but if you look at the majority thats a very rare occurance. I personally think its that damn stereotype.."All asian guys have small dicks"..or maybe not..
just wondering cuz i dont think its a question that is asked enough hehe..unless I havent skimmed this forum enough times. heh LATEr.
For me, its a question of height and bulk. I am slightly taller (5/8") than a lot of women and I prefer my guys
to be taller than me by at least a few inches and to outweigh me (not hard, but harder for guys who are my height or shorter because they are often very slight.)
Why? Because some warped bit of my brain usually equates 'shorter' and 'smaller' with 'younger' with 'needs to be mothered'. I know it's not sensible, but there ya go.
moimeme WRITES: "...Because some warped bit of my brain...."
I cannot believe in a thousand years that could exist. Just not buying it!!!
Very good response to the post above and I think this is the feeling of many women. But I also know a lot of women who are attracted to Asian men. Perhaps this gentleman needs to get out more and get rid of the complex he may have about being Asian.
im white and im an asian dater extrodianaire. hehe jk, but i have dated one asian before and i am dating one right now. so i dunno.......i think asians are told to stick with their own race, maybe its the asians that dont want to do that dating of other races?
I am asian and would date interracially altho the opportunity has never arisen. If I were to ever want to marry someone non-asian though my family would have a big fuss.
generally, it IS a matter of bulk and height. but there're plenty of petite white/black/etc gals, so you've got a whole field of flowers to pick from =)
i wish someone could explain why asian families like to keep it within their race.....this guy i am dating doesnt seem to be that way..but most others are....
There's plenty of caucasian women out there that will date asians. I am asian and I have dated plenty of caucasian women. I'm rather positive that it doesn't have to with the region that I live in although I've dated plenty of hispanic women as well among others. In the end it comes down to attraction. What attracts women to men and vice versa? Well, that's probably another topic, and quite honestly, it's not a universal medium. Like others have said in these posts, slantedeyez needs to go out and just meet more people.
By the way, slantedeyez, while you're out looking for your caucasian girl...try not to overlook other possibilities that may present themselves. Things like that usually happen when you're not expecting them to. Oh, and stop worrying about the stereotypes out there. It will bring you down in the end, and then you'll try and make up for the stereotype and over compensate. Then you'll come across as a guy who has something to prove, and most women (my opinion) don't find that attractive.
Originally posted by jalexy
i wish someone could explain why asian families like to keep it within their race.....this guy i am dating doesnt seem to be that way..but most others are....
I'll see if a couple of Italian fathers of girl's I've dated can chime in and help you out here...they've been really big on the whole interacial dating thing...
I never thought of it as so much a "race" thing, but as a cultural one. Most of the asians that I know have very strict beliefs on a variety of things including family and work, and often these beliefs (culture) don't mesh as well with the hodge-podge of today's society and the flexibility in societies "standards" with regards to raising children, marriage and even work ethics.
Puts me in mind of someone I used to work with who is catholic and dated someone who was not catholic and the only way she would marry him is if he converted. he went to classes for a year for her. My other friends family is the same way - but jewish. Cultural and religious differences, I think, play a big part.
I think it's more a matter of getting to know someone, then "liking" them. After falling for one asian guy, I totally check out asian guys more now. As for the tall issue, there's lots of tall well built asian guys, and they tend to dress really well. I think it's great that there's way more interracial dating now.
yeap..i think the main problem probably does lie within stereotype. in today's world, all u need is a little stereotype to make judgement on ppl before u even meet them....hell the worst stereotype i hate are that theyre little ppl, smart, introverted and cant speak english well. im a big slacker in college and the worst procrastinator you can find...but i socialize a lot with any race
well anyway, first off not all asians "little" people. my bro is 5'10" and i'm 5'10 or 5'11". yes im chinese, but the way i dress, they usually assume that i'm born here, came when i was 5. 98% of the time i speak english anywhere so i dont blame them.
u know what this caucasian girl that goes to my friend's college tell him? hm..was it chinese OR asian guys are beautiful, but they're not sexy.
anyway, i dont htink it's impossible to get with girls out of our race, but i do believe you have to work for it. heck my bro has a jamaican gf from his college upstate that he attended.
anyway, imo it's also has something to do with the mindset. if you live the lifestyle of a caucasian, dress and act like them. you will probably be readily accepted by them, even dating one too. but imo i think the truth in reality is the cultural/tradition/lifestyle barrier that is the gap between us that really divides us from everyone else. ..... unless the other person says " hell screw this and that i dont care, i love him for what he is..blahblah" then there's soemone you can always dig...
I absolutely ADORE anything asian, including the men I have many Asian friends ...and they wont date white women. Something about their families wanting them to marry traditional, and they are very hardcore about it. I've dated a couple of Asians but they obviously didn't last because their families weren't happy that I was not asian. The only exception was one that was mixed himself..
My conclusion..if anything, i'd say it's a toss up. I wouldn't say that other races don't like to date asian men like yourself.. but around here (In NY, and even cali for the most part) you hardly even catch a asian man checking out anything that isn't asian.
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Is interracial dating with asian men not popular?
I have many Asian friends ...and they wont date white women. Something about their families wanting them to marry traditional, and they are very hardcore about it. I've dated a couple of Asians but they obviously didn't last because their families weren't happy that I was not asian. The only exception was one that was mixed himself.. 
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