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Old 18th November 2009, 2:25 AM   #1
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He said he feels we have a connection

A guy friend told me he feels we have a connection. What does that mean?

I've only ever known romantic partners to tell me that.
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Old 18th November 2009, 2:37 AM   #2
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what kind of connections? friends connection? brother-sister type or romantic connections? think you gotta ask him
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Old 18th November 2009, 3:48 AM   #3
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Is this a new guy or the one discussed in the thread below?

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=209370

Topically, there are many types of connections, but, generally, most normal hetero men only think of romantic and sexual connections with a hetero woman who is not their mother, sister, daughter or other close familial female.

Other connections exist, but are much more rare. Remember, I'm talking about 'normal' men here, meaning the majority of men you will meet each day. Aberrations exist
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Old 18th November 2009, 3:57 AM   #4
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A guy friend told me he feels we have a connection. What does that mean?

I've only ever known romantic partners to tell me that.
It means he wants to f*ck you. Pretty simple.
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Old 18th November 2009, 4:21 AM   #5
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A guy friend told me he feels we have a connection. What does that mean?

I've only ever known romantic partners to tell me that.
It means your guy friend is working his way around to admitting he has a romantic interest in you.

Here's something you may not know: few men--particularly younger men--go out of their way to befriend women unless they are attracted to them. I'll bet you have any number of male friends who have hots for you.

That's not a big, though. Once they understand friendship is all they're going to get, most guys will leave it at that. This guy sounds like an exception.
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Old 18th November 2009, 4:35 AM   #6
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A guy friend told me he feels we have a connection. What does that mean?
If he's genuine, then it means you have similar life experiences, similar values, a similar outlook on life (which can be further broken down into similar sense of humour/nature, similar goals - work/life balance) and on an on it goes. So, if any of this holds true then he could well be above board. Usually it takes a wee while to get to this level though.

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Old 18th November 2009, 2:58 PM   #7
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If he's genuine, then it means you have similar life experiences, similar values, a similar outlook on life (which can be further broken down into similar sense of humour/nature, similar goals - work/life balance) and on an on it goes. So, if any of this holds true then he could well be above board. Usually it takes a wee while to get to this level though.

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Yes, this is pretty much true. I found it interesting what you said about men not befriending women unless they find them attractive. Thinking about that...

Thanks everyone!
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Old 18th November 2009, 10:19 PM   #8
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If he's genuine, then it means you have similar life experiences, similar values, a similar outlook on life (which can be further broken down into similar sense of humour/nature, similar goals - work/life balance) and on an on it goes. So, if any of this holds true then he could well be above board. Usually it takes a wee while to get to this level though.

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Would you consider someone who has been friends with someone close to 5 years, but only recently has come to be *attracted* to them in a similar situation?
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Old 19th November 2009, 1:21 AM   #9
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Would you consider someone who has been friends with someone close to 5 years, but only recently has come to be *attracted* to them in a similar situation?
Yes I would. Our friends tend to get us, tend to know us better than anyone else. There's a connection there for sure, but it isn't usually of the romantic kind.

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