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Old 17th November 2009, 5:34 AM   #1
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Sexual Health Checks

I have recently contracted a venereal disease from my husband. It transpires that he has been sleeping with other women for many years, it will be one of these women that infected him.

I know that at least one of the OW was convinced she was the only OW. She was also convinced that we never had sex and that he was about to leave me at any second and she would be the next Mrs CheatedOnAndInfectedWithGodKnnowsWhat.

So, despite what your MM tells you and despite however much you are convinced he is having sex with you and only you, please get tested.
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Old 17th November 2009, 5:46 AM   #2
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oh man, that stinks

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I have recently contracted a venereal disease from my husband. It transpires that he has been sleeping with other women for many years, it will be one of these women that infected him.

I know that at least one of the OW was convinced she was the only OW. She was also convinced that we never had sex and that he was about to leave me at any second and she would be the next Mrs CheatedOnAndInfectedWithGodKnnowsWhat.

So, despite what your MM tells you and despite however much you are convinced he is having sex with you and only you, please get tested.
Hi there and I am so sorry this happened to you. This is something I always wonder about, how MM or MW can go have sex and not protect themselves or get tested, risking their health and more importantly, the health of their spouse. OMG I am so very sorry....I sure hope it is treatable and you do not suffer to much from this.

I dont trust people with what they tell me, and make people get tested...the issue is, a man or woman can get tested one day, and sleep with someone else the next, and you might not know it.

I am sending hugs and heartfelt ....(((HUGS))) for better days. I just cant imagine how livid, beside myself i would feel, among other emotions, if i was with someone who cheated, lied and then got me sick.

Man, that is just so unfortunate and unfair.
take care, and thanks for posting...
people are damn stupid when it comes to sex...
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Old 17th November 2009, 9:55 AM   #3
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I have recently contracted a venereal disease from my husband.
That's horrid. I hope it's nothing too severe, and that you can make a full and speedy recovery.
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Old 17th November 2009, 9:57 AM   #4
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That's awful. Are you divorcing your husband?
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Old 17th November 2009, 10:14 AM   #5
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Im sorry what a kick in the but,Have you confronted him and did he admit to it?
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Old 17th November 2009, 11:19 AM   #6
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As soon as I found out he had been screwing around and the extent of it, I left and immediately started divorce proceedings. I also got tested.

After receiving the results the other day, the OWomen were informed via my lawyer who copied them into the same email. This has several implications, not least that they would be under no illusions about just how many of them there have been or indeed, how many of them still are involved.

My divorce settlement will not only include recompense for his adultery, this will also be taken into account.

Oh, and he hasn't stopped begging me to go back to him since the day I walked out.
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Old 19th November 2009, 9:12 PM   #7
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Turnstone,

I am truly sorry that this has happened to you, and that you now have to deal with yet another bad result of loving someone. I can't imagine how truly horrible that must feel. I hope that it is something realtively minor (though I am sure right now NOTHING like this seems very minor) considering the possibilities, if it is curable, it is SO much better than it could have been.

((HUGS)) to you (if you want them from me). I hope you are well on the way to recovery from the disease, and that you heal quickly from the emotional pain you have been put through as well.
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Old 20th November 2009, 10:44 PM   #8
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As soon as I found out he had been screwing around and the extent of it, I left and immediately started divorce proceedings. I also got tested.

After receiving the results the other day, the OWomen were informed via my lawyer who copied them into the same email. This has several implications, not least that they would be under no illusions about just how many of them there have been or indeed, how many of them still are involved.

My divorce settlement will not only include recompense for his adultery, this will also be taken into account.

Oh, and he hasn't stopped begging me to go back to him since the day I walked out.
I'm so you're M to a serial cheater and that you were infected. I'm sure your message will open the eyes of many OW who can't believe their MM is serial and has overlapping As.

Best of luck to you and I hope you find someone worthy of your love and TRUST in the future.
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