[hollisterbaby]

So my bf and I have been on and off for the past 3 and a half years. I love him alot and i know that he loves me too. Right now we are on our 4th break.(I know its crazy). Anyways i met his childhood best friend last summer and we quicky became friends. We would call each other but it was always really innocent. I even tried hooking him out wit one of my girls. My bf doesnt always treat me the way he should and I always found comfort in his friend if my girls werent available to talk. Last fri after the 3 of us hung out he invited me over to his house to have a beer. He said he wanted to talk so I gave him a chance.He was very flirty and the next day I couldnt stop thinking about him. We then hung out on Monday and we ended up kissing. We also hung out Tues. and WEds. He's the sweetest guy and he really wants to be with me. He told me that its my decision if I want to continue seeing him or not b/c right now he's in California. When he comes back I have to make a decesion. What makes it so hard is because he's the sweetest guy and we have a connection. We know that we shouldnt be seeing each other because him and my "bf" have been friends since middle school. I really dont know what to do and he doesnt either.I really need outside advice from ppl besides my friends so if everyone can give me some feedback I would really appreciate it
Thanks...

[Brady_to_Moss]

If you're in a relationship and you are thinking about another guy, the relationship is allready over. Break up with said BF and move on. Once it's in you're head, its all over.

[Boundary Problem]

Originally Posted by hollisterbaby

Right now we are on our 4th break.(I know its crazy).

He was very flirty and the next day I couldnt stop thinking about him. We then hung out on Monday and we ended up kissing. He's the sweetest guy and he really wants to be with me.

We know that we shouldnt be seeing each other because him and my "bf" have been friends since middle school.

The numerous breaks suggest to me that your bf and you are over. But I notice that you call it a 'break" and you didn't say "broken up"

I don't think too much of this friend who is flirty with his buddy girlfriend. I don't have a brother, but I think there is some code amongst men that they don't date each other's women. So the fact he was flirty with you (behind his buddy's back) strikes me as disloyal.

If you truly cared for both men, wouldn't you want them to maintain their friendship? Are they casual friends or best friends?

[hollisterbaby]

they are basically reconnected best friends.they lost touch thru high school and last summer started talking again. i have to end the "fling" or whatever you want to call it b/C i dont want to destroy a friendship.

[harmfulsweetz]

I think it's best to end it, or at least wait until you've officially ended it with the bf. Although, me and my mates have an unspoken rule on exes, we stay well away. They are off limits, unless of course, it was a one date disaster.

[gypsy_nicky]

Originally Posted by Boundary Problem

I don't have a brother, but I think there is some code amongst men that they don't date each other's women. So the fact he was flirty with you (behind his buddy's back) strikes me as disloyal.

"bros before ho*s"