[lilbelle]

I did it. I went out had a great time, met a lot of people, got numbers but I hate him. I drove by his place on the way home. he's not there and I know he is with her and its fing killing me. I want to contact her to know if she knows about us to know that she knows he is full of ****. He thinks I don't know who she is. He has ravaged my being. every fing thing i was. i'm sick. i want to scream. i can't believe it. i'm so heartbroke and he has her to run to and she obviously accepts it. what if she knew what he said to me. how he was with me. does anyone think she has a right to know? if i was her i would want to know, i hate him. i want to ruin his life. its unfair.

[Exit]

Unfortunately as much as you might want to alert this new girl that this guy isn't what he seems, you don't want to come across as the crazy girl trying to stir sh*t up. It's not your place to inform her, she's going to have to figure it out for herself. I drove past my exs place for a long time too, but it's a perfect way to ruin a great night, so why do it? I'd have fun at a friends house and then torture myself by driving past and seeing that she wasn't home. Thankfully I finally stopped that.

Allow yourself to hate him, it's part of healing.

[JaneDoe35]

Oh sweetie, I know this is killing you!!! I know how you feel. My husband of 10 years, 13.5 years together cheated on me, got caught & left me almost 3 months ago. He is out tonight at a wine fair with mutual friends.

I am home with our 9 year old daughter trying to be a great mummy in all my sorrow. I am 34 years old and am now single....

Please don't let him destroy you.

Please take a breath and think about anything good in your life. I know it might be hard to think of anything right now, but try...

Take care.

[lilbelle]

he was with her before me. fed me a bunch of bs. i just want her to know. i cant help this feeling. i hate him right now!

[EricaH329]

I hate to say it, but I don't think that telling her anything will make much of a difference. I know that personally, if some girl were to approach me and start rambling about how my boyfriend broke her heart and he said this and that to her, i'd look at her like she's crazy. (Not saying you are crazy).

I don't tend to believe what other people tell me about someone, if I think I have a pretty good idea of who my boyfriend is, they can tell me whatever they would like.

I think it'd do much more harm to yourself. Sure, it might feel good to get it off your chest, but in the end, if she still remains with him... how do you think you are going to feel?? Probably the same, if not worse.

IMO, I wouldn't say anything to her, or him for that matter. Be angry with him, let it ride out, and move on. Easier said than done, it'll take time, probably lots of it... but you'll feel better about yourself if you don't say anything.