[Landofconfusion]

Greetings,

I have been married fifteen years and we both have long lost the initial spark we had at the beginning. I would say I love my wife but for sure I 'm not in love.

Anyway, I have fallen in love with someone else twice while married. The first time after five years and the last time about a year or so ago. I did not cheat and forced myself to keep away from them even though my heart was screaming for me to take action. It was SO hard to resist. I can see how people lose their resolve and give in to the feelings.

I want to know if this normal or it means I am with the wrong person. I have a friend who is married about the same amount of time who says he feels the same love but not in love and no spark, but has never fallen for anyone else other than a few slight crushes. Any thoughts on this?