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I'm not sure where my other thread went, but it's been awhile so I'm starting anew one.

To catch up, she broke up with me 2 months ago over fighting last two months of our relationship over stupid stuff and for trust issues and she had said she fell out of love with me. I decided to not initiate contact with her to help me heal, but she would send me txts a few times a week, which I took my time to respond to, and we met up 3 times over the course of 2 months. On the second date I tried to kiss her and she denied me, she said she liked us as friends and I didn't accept that and we talked and agreed to not date other people and try and see where things would go. Well during that time it was driving me crazy, I felt she was leading me on, and this past weekend we talked and I put pressure on her that we should start dating and to show it with actions, cuz up to that point she hadn't been showing much interest. She kept blowing me off when I tried to make plans with her, we only met up when it was her idea. I tried all kinds of things, playing hard to get, reversing roles, ignoring her txts for days, giving her space, none of it worked. We ended up meeting yesterday and she called it all off. She said she couldn't give me 100% and realized she was happy on her own, and didn't want to be with anyone right now, and she doesn't know what she wants (ya right). I accepted it and told her how I felt and reminded her of why I was an amazing man and that she won't realize things with me around, and I said if were meant to be together we will. I told her I was walking away and closind the door but she has a key to that door and if she comes back someday and the lock hasn't been changed, we may be together. I left her with the idea that if she came back I'd give her a good life. We hugged and cried and said goodbye.

I completely blew it at trying to get back together. I should have broke things off and gone complete no contact when she threw out the friend card, so that she could miss me and possibly come back as her idea not mine. And I should have been more patient with her. Dammit.

I am completely heartbroken and devastated, but I know I have to take time to heal and try to move on.

If anyone has had something similar happen or insight, do you have advice for me? I'm hoping she may come back someday. I'm going no contact, I will never initiate contact again, unless she really comes back.

Do they ever come back after they have finalized the breakup and lost all interest?

They say absense makes the heart grow fonder.