[foreal]

After I found out about his A, he'd ask me, "What are you thinking?" and at first I'd lash out and say, "I'm picturing you getting sucked off by MOW"...or something along those lines...infidelity is so irritating.

I came to realize that this man has not one but TWO women picturing him with another! (MOW still pines for him) What an Ahole!

So as time has passed, I don't share my 'bubble thoughts' all the time with him- I'll say something like "I'm in my own private moment"" ...and I move on. It's better for me.

But I am really looking forward to sharing with him my thoughts tonight....when he asks me, "what are you thinking?" he will expect the standard "You with her" or "I am okay, in my own thoughts"...but tonite instead I will say:

"I'm thinking about the 7 grand I dropped today at Nordy's Half Yearly Sale and how damn good I look in everything."

Hey, it's cheaper than divorce

[Lizzie60]

I agree.. it does feel good.. when I decided to leave my first ex.. I went shopping with my BFF... I spent 4 grand that day...

I'm still a shopholic to this day...

[bentnotbroken]

It helped me deal with a lot

[Mr. Lucky]

Originally Posted by foreal

Hey, it's cheaper than divorce

Only if you're limiting the discussion to finances...

Mr. Lucky

[threebyfate]

Did you read the thread about the woman who made her WS buy her a Z4, for straying? Wickedly smart woman in that the Z4 was a daily reminder that infidelity costs, to the WS!

[foreal]

threebyfate:

A Z4! gawd my H is getting off cheap!

My thinking is that I wanted new stuff I had not worn while he was boinking MOW...The other/old clothes/shoes/purses reminded me of how money conscious I was during his A. I barely shopped and when I did, I did not buy the things I really wanted b/c HE kept saying "money's tight" (b/c he was dropping it on her).

Even though I do all our finances and knew we could afford it, I restrained myself- whew, glad that's over....I did some big shopping right after I found out too but I was loaded on valium- what a great experience that was! But shopping drug free was just so so so wonderful!!

I modeled for him last night- funny thing is, he never once asked how much I spent, he just kept saying, "I'd love to see what else you got!"..then we had some hot sex.

Retail Therapy is good.

[2sure]

Ha. Kinda funny. Years ago when I was OW , a MM bought me a Z4 which I brought with me when I got married 4 yrs ago. We live in the east so this car could only be driven in the summer months. So, I had a pretty conservative domestic car for the rest of the year.(His profession requires we drive domestic cars) I had to replace the domestic car earlier this year and fretted a bit what his reaction might be because I went over budget and also bought something with more muscle. He never said a word. Little did I know his lack of response to my spending had a lot to do with the fact that he was cheating on me , in spades.

So, I did myself and my psyche a big favor about a month ago. I sold them BOTH and bought a very nice german import that is not conservative & not domestic and is way too expensive. But I figure the Z4 money was mine anyway. If he thought he could buy his way out of infidelity he greatly underestimated the cost.

I like the new car. I like the way I look in it. I like that it isnt domestic. It screams, so I dont have to.

[Blindsidedagainalive]

I am a 45 YO betrayed man.

After WW's affair I did the following:

1.) got really fit
2.) bought an entire new hip wardrobe
3.) got a really short hip haircut
4.) went out to eat a lot
5.) went to florida alone
6.) stopped taking care of her car
7.) stopped doing a lot of housework
8.) reconnected with family
9.) made new friends
10.) flirted with woman (haven't done that in many years)

The $500.00 bomber jacket really looks good.

[foreal]

Originally Posted by Blindsidedagainalive

I am a 45 YO betrayed man.

After WW's affair I did the following:

1.) got really fit
2.) bought an entire new hip wardrobe
3.) got a really short hip haircut
4.) went out to eat a lot
5.) went to florida alone
6.) stopped taking care of her car
7.) stopped doing a lot of housework
8.) reconnected with family
9.) made new friends
10.) flirted with woman (haven't done that in many years)

The $500.00 bomber jacket really looks good.

RIGHT ON!! Get some cool shades to cover your eyes while you're at it...

[foreal]

Originally Posted by 2sure

It screams, so I dont have to.

That's beautiful!