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Hacked into EX's email and changed password!! Should I deny or fess up??
Okay so curiosity killed the cat...Im really worried of what the outcome of this will be. So please any advice on how to handle this would help.
Boyfriend of 2 years and me broke up. We have been seeing each other and things have been up and down...but we are still very much in love. Trust has been an issue for a while just because he has always been very sneaky. Well...we are still not together officially but ARE exclusive. too get to the point..
I was suspicious and figured out how to get into his email address...the problem is...I had to change his password to get into it. I knew his security questions..I thought I changed it to something it would be but I dont think I did...I know he is going to check his email and since this is not the first time I have hacked into his personal stuff I know he will know it was me. I just dont want to make things worse and push him away.
So should I fess up before he finds out? How do I go about doing it...or should I deny everything and act like I dont have a clue why he cannot log in?
HELP!!!!!
You said, since you had done this kind of thing before, you know he will know its you, then why deny it if you figure he will know?
Why not bite the bullet and tell him you did. Then bow out of the relationship gracefully. I really don't see it going anywhere, except for it to probably be filled with more of what has been going on already. If you can't trust him, find someone you can trust. First, it might help if you work on yourself too though.
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I say tell him. He has a right to know, AND that way he can then make a decision on whether or not he wants to continue on seeing you. Don't be afraid of the outcome, you weren't to afraid to do what you did, AGAIN!
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Well which one is it? Either you are Together(and that means EXCLUSIVE) or broken up (which means NOT EXCLUSIVE). YOU CANT BE BOTH!
Your semantics are so full of holes its laughable.Plus you've done it before? Oh let's see I don't think he is Columbo but he will be able to put together in about 2 seconds that its you
Well...there is always two sides to the story. So I think that making an assumption that Im crazy is premature. Yes I have done it in the past...but for good reasoning as he agrees.
But for an update...
I let him know. He understands and says it is ok. He asked that I show him I can change as he will too. Sorry but nothing worth having is not worth fighting for.
Word of warning: unless you work on YOUR trust issues, you ain't ever going to stop doing it. Why don't you trust him? I mean, has he ever cheated etc? If not, then it's completely unfounded to snoop. What you did was more than rifling through a phone, it was actually hacking into someone's emails, their private space. It's one thing to know the password (and even then you're on thin ice) and look, but entirely another to change the password. I've had someone do that to me once, sent loads of nasty emails out to people I cared about, but anyway, it's nasty. It's an invasion of privacy.
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Hacked into EX's email and changed password!! Should I deny or fess up??
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