I went 3 months NC with my Ex-gf. I asked her through a text if she sees anything happening between us in the future. The breakup she claimed was because she needed to figure her life out. Here was her response.
"Im honestly so sorry 4 not connecting w/u.. Ive done without my phone this past week. as for future plans and commitments, im unable 2 make plans as of current. I know you are real and true! believe me, u flatter me in beautiful ways.. it pains me not able 2 shower you w/the same attention.. you are special, unique, intrigueing, level headed, sporty, successful, stylish, gentlemanly, curtious of others and contain such an amazing heart and soul."
Her parents just divorced so she is having a hard time with trying to help her dad keep the house. I heard from a mutual friend that she is not dating anyone but went out with a guy a couple times awhile back. Any input is appreciated.
Is her life just too hectic right now for me or am I bieng an idiot by waiting?
Is there anything I can/should say over the phone. I left flowers for her up at her work awhile back and she said she was sorry for making things so akward (she broke up with me through a text).
I feel there is nothing I can do to make her want me. Is she saying to leave her the f alone and never contact her?
Last edited by Pfiend101; 1st November 2009 at 9:21 PM..
she also sent me this before "I want better for you, im no good, cant let down the wall between me and everyone else... i ruin everything. cant ruin any others.. your heart is incredible..."
Shes dancing around the issue because she doesnt want to hurt your feelings, but all you need to know is that this is a waste of time. It has nothing to do with her life being hectic, or figuring anything out, shes just not that into you. She doesnt want to look like a jerk, so shes playing the old 'I just cant be with anyone right now' card, which is always crap.
Stop talking to this girl, and focus on moving on. Usually when people say 'I'm no good for you, you deserve better' they are right.
I asked her through a text if she sees anything happening between us in the future.
This was a bad move. You capped off a very long NC by coming across needy and desperate, which pretty much undoes everything that you accomplished by not contacting your ex.
I agree with the poster who said she's blowing you off in a very nice way. I'd take this as a sign to move on.
The only chance you have right now is to reinvent yourself in a lot of positive ways, and her somehow getting wind of it. NC alone just isn't enough... sometimes you have to create an environment in which she wants and needs you back.
Its her loss. Shes usually attracted to abusive relationships and I wont be a part of that. I workout am much more outgoing since I went out with her last. Women are attracted to me I just have to start dating others. I will then. As far as asking her about the future I figured I might either get some closure or a door left open point blank.
Sounds like you have some closure then, not meant to be and you will find someone better.
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The only chance you have right now is to reinvent yourself in a lot of positive ways, and her somehow getting wind of it. NC alone just isn't enough... sometimes you have to create an environment in which she wants and needs you back.
please elaborate, how can she get wind in NC and what sort of environment do you mean?
Should not have even contacted in the first place. Listen to the people on here of course I though I was an exception. Stay NC let them contact you, if they broke up with you they have to somehow want you back. Nothing you can say or do will make them come back. I didnt do anything to make her leave..... F it.
Im not treating the next one like a princess flowers bringing her coffee up to her work. I just dont give a **** anymore about women. Give them everything and they leave as soon as they have built up their confidence and used up your money.
Don't blame the next woman in your life for all the pain the previous one gave you...she has nothing to do with it.
You don't have to change who and what you are because of your ex gf. If you allow that, she still continues to manipulate you. If you are the kind of guy that treats his girl like a princess, keep being that guy. You will find the right girl who will appreciate that.
Learn from the experience but don't lose yourself...
Should not have even contacted in the first place. Listen to the people on here of course I though I was an exception. Stay NC let them contact you, if they broke up with you they have to somehow want you back. Nothing you can say or do will make them come back. I didnt do anything to make her leave..... F it.
Im not treating the next one like a princess flowers bringing her coffee up to her work. I just dont give a **** anymore about women. Give them everything and they leave as soon as they have built up their confidence and used up your money.
This is funny to me. You need to find a happy medium here. I tend to be the opposite.
Being nice to a chick isn't bad, as long as you aren't giving more then you are getting. Women are different creatures. They are more emotional, more nurturing, and they are attracted to men that they cannot control and who won't bend over backwards for them.
In the future, play it like this, trust me, it works. I have the opposite problem that you do.
In a relationship, make sure that they are always wanting a little bit, it's call challenge. All women love a little challenge. Let them chase you a bit and they won't ever dump you..
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