[rocketeer]

i've been seeing this guy for a year now; we're engaged and in a long-distance relationship. though we both seem to turn each other on through oral and other touching, the problem is that we haven't had vaginal sex yet.

i've never had vaginal sex, and he has been in previous relationships where he has. each time he tries to enter me, either i get very nervous and involuntarily push him away or him trying to enter hurts so much that he stops cause im in pain. since vaginal sex is new to me, i've made it a point to masturbate more often and insert items mimicking a penis to make the area less sensitive. we've also tried lube with no success -- i'm also having a hard time getting wet.

any advice is appreciated. thanks in advance.