[lillymountain]

Hi

as some of you know,i'm am in a LDR and now have to make some decisions....
we've been together for 7 months now, love each other and managed to see each other heaps so far.
about 6 weeks ago we got both very busy - he is working full time, i'm working fulltime and studying on the weekends.
our original plan was, that i would study and work and he would take a week of every couple of weeks and come over and when his contract is over move to my place.
now it turned out, that if he does so he will loose a lot of money every time he takes time off (and the contract is only for 9 months) and that moving to my place next year might be a stupid thing to do, cause he might loose his change to get an european passport which would take another year.
i have a bit less 2 years to go and then i have - hopefully - my masters degree.
Cause it turned out that it is difficult for him to come over regularly and i have to change my schedule anyways to part time work
- it is definilty effecting me, i cannot be busy 7 days a week and maintain a LDR, it feels horrible, im scared i might get a burnout and i mean that seriously, i already cant sleep and stuff and freak out about tiny things-
so im looking for a more flexible work.

yesterday i found out, that it might be possible to take a break from my coursework without loosing the right to finish the course later - it was quite hard to get in (but i dont know yet, if i have to finish the first or second
semester to do so)
it is more or less just an idea, but it might be a good thing to do - take a break of a year, move to his place in a few months, try to get job there (hopefully not to difficult), then come home and finish my studies and it would be just a few months to go till he gets his passport.
so it would delay the end of my studies quite a bit and likewise our possibilty to go abroad together, cause the he would have to wait for me.
but we would actually be together.
and i dont know if i could find a job that allows to take so much time of to see him every three weeks.

i told him about this "maybe"possibility yesterday and he seemed to be quite overstrained.
he said it would delay everything and he didnt want me to make this huge sacrifice, cause i tried so hard to get into this university and if it wasnt easier if i got a more flexible job and came over every two or three weeks.
and yes that would be better for my career and yes, which is important to me, but so is he and it would bridge at least a part of this visa/passport time gap.

its not that im convinced it would be the best solution - but im a bit disappointed by his reaction.

i would appreciate every kind of advice or opinion

thanks for reading, guys