[NewlywedTears]

I am new to the board and seeking some advice on my present situation with my marriage.

My husband and I became a couple in 1996 after a three-year friendship. We fell in love instantly when we began dating because we had such a strong friendship already built. We were married this past October but have already lived together for three years now.

About a year ago we started to have very bad financial problems. Shortly thereafter my husband’s father passed away (my own father passed away right before my husband & I began dating). I became quite depressed because of our money situation and my husband became very withdrawn after his father’s passing. He has had a lot of problems dealing with his father’s loss.

Although I was there for him, he would not let me in. In October when we got married I felt as though everything in our relationship was wonderful. On our wedding day he looked at me with such love that no one would doubt we were meant for each other.

A few weeks ago I found out I was pregnant and was ecstatic. Although my husband had many times been disappointed when my cycle would start (knowing that I was not pregnant yet) he didn’t seem to be nearly as excited when the pregnancy became official. About a week after I found out I was pregnant he came to me to tell me he was unhappy and that he had fallen out of love with me long before we even married. I was devastated and completely shocked because it always seemed he was still in love as much as I was.

I also discovered that he has feeling for a friend of his (that I have not met) but he stated he would not act on them because we are married and he does not wish to hurt me. He says he still loves me –not in love- but is no longer sexually attracted to me and I do not make him happy anymore. Several days passed and he began to ignore me and avoid me. I tried to confront him but he just got angry.

The other night I came home and he said ‘I am ready to work on us’. He held me and told me he loves me. We have not talked anymore about it because he is very stubborn and has made it clear he is not willing to talk things through. Since then he has spent all his time (since he was recently fired) talking to the girl that he has feeling for. She is a teenager & eight years younger than him. I am at a loss of what to do.

I truly believe somewhere inside of him is the love we once shared. I am putting forth all the effort I have but I don’t know what to do. I have confided this in a few close friends. One suggests I leave him because she went through almost the exact same scenario when she was pregnant. The other suggests I call on my psychic helper.

I am seriously open to anything. I consider myself a pretty level headed person but I am open minded and even calling on a psychic helper isn’t out of the question so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! Thank you all very much.