[Bobby2010]

And what a roller coaster of emotions in that time. I am now,finally, starting to be myself again. I'm not all the way back yet, probably won't be for some time.

Some lessons learned for sure.

For the love of God trust your gut. It's the only evidence I really had, and what was going on was far worse than I suspected.

If you ever find yourself wondering if your SO is starting to become distant, act on it. Don't just ask her/him if everything is alright, you will be lied to if they are cheating.

Instead just separate immediately, as I wish I had done.

Harsh without strong evidence, but think about it.

If they are cheating, they will accept the separation and wish you well. There's your answer if you are suspicious.
If they aren't cheating, they will go out of their way to fix things. They will not just accept it.

I was naive, and believed her when I got the "just friends" line. I never in a million years thought my soul mate would betray me. She hasn't been in touch since she left me for a co-worker in May. Nothing.

If you ever find yourself thinking "She (or he) is acting like a completely different person lately" The truth is they are not. They are now showing who in fact they really are, and who they always really were.

They were a different person for us. They were fake for us. The person we thought we had didn't really exist.


Long story short, I am feeling better. And man I wish I had become an LS member as soon as I started to see the warning signs.