[deathdhar]

Hi All,

My gf and I had been seeing each other for a while and everything was going great. A year ago, she left to go study abroad for the year and so we committed to staying together through the long distance relationship.

Things were fine for the first 4 months, but being so far away, it became hard to put in the extra energy and effort needed to keep things going strong. My gf thought we should take a break, and so we did after the 5th month.

Though we were on break, we still cared for each other deeply and talked amicably. During this time, however, she met a (local) guy and started to develop feelings for him; telling me she was confused and didn't know what she wanted. They began spending more and more time together and began seeing each other.

I was obviously heartbroken to learn this, but wanted her to be happy and accepted that she was free to explore her heart and feelings. After being with him for 2-3 months, however, she began to realize that it wasn't right for her and so she ended things with him 2 months before she came back home. She told me she realized he wasn't right for her, that she had ended things, but that she didnt' expect anything from me and didn't want to come crying back because it wouldn't be fair to me (which I felt was very mature of her). She finally came home 2 months ago, and since then we have been inseparable and have gotten back together.

Everything has been great, except that I found out while she was with the other guy, they did get intimate and physical. I know we were not together, and that she was free to explore her heart and do what she pleased, but the thought of her being with another man hurts incredibly. It hurts greatly to think that she was able to reach that level with someone else after me; especially when I thought of only her the whole time.

What can I do to get over these feelings? I care for her very much and want to get over what happened.

Thanks for your advice and help!