-I noticed that if we don't have sex for a while I start developing aggression/getting annoyed with things easily
-We have sex like once every 2 weeks...
-Whenever I try to initiate sex (I have been quite creative)... she will either do it out of obligation (ie: she feels forced, and i can tell) or she says she is too tired or doesn't wanna mess up her hair... a lot of the times she says she doesnt want to because she hasn't waxed herself (shes insecure if she is not completely hairless)
-She only initiates it once in a blue moon (I counted 4-5 times this past year she did it)
From MY personal experience with women... they don't care if they are too tired or if their hair gets messy or if they have a little hair growing back.
Thoughts? Get out now. If you're sexually incompatible now, it is very unlikely that the situation will do anything but get worse. She may change temporarily if she wants the relationship to work, but it will only be that. Temporary.
She is just not that into you physically. This will only get worse - likely much worse.
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Originally Posted by meshmatic
-My g/f and I are both 23 yrs old.
-I noticed that if we don't have sex for a while I start developing aggression/getting annoyed with things easily
-We have sex like once every 2 weeks...
-Whenever I try to initiate sex (I have been quite creative)... she will either do it out of obligation (ie: she feels forced, and i can tell) or she says she is too tired or doesn't wanna mess up her hair... a lot of the times she says she doesnt want to because she hasn't waxed herself (shes insecure if she is not completely hairless)
-She only initiates it once in a blue moon (I counted 4-5 times this past year she did it)
From MY personal experience with women... they don't care if they are too tired or if their hair gets messy or if they have a little hair growing back.
Been together 2 yrs now... well I don't think she isn't physically attracted to me because I box and have a very fit body... no 6 pack... but it's enough for my gf to get mad at me during the summer becuz i go out with a tank top and girls see it...
Also, when we do make love... a few times we did it in front of the mirror and she thought we looked very hot... so i dont think its a physical attraction thing? maybe she jus said it to make me feel good?
It sounds like you are just sexually incompatible. And with all of the things that enter into a marriage (if that's where you're headed) like children and responsibilities, it is only going to get more challenging to have sex regularly.
You need to figure out how important this is to you. If it's a dealbreaker, then get out now.
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Originally Posted by meshmatic
-My g/f and I are both 23 yrs old.
-I noticed that if we don't have sex for a while I start developing aggression/getting annoyed with things easily
-We have sex like once every 2 weeks...
-Whenever I try to initiate sex (I have been quite creative)... she will either do it out of obligation (ie: she feels forced, and i can tell) or she says she is too tired or doesn't wanna mess up her hair... a lot of the times she says she doesnt want to because she hasn't waxed herself (shes insecure if she is not completely hairless)
-She only initiates it once in a blue moon (I counted 4-5 times this past year she did it)
From MY personal experience with women... they don't care if they are too tired or if their hair gets messy or if they have a little hair growing back.
I don't think it's that she's not into you physically- it sounds like she just doesn't enjoy sex. Just so you know, that won't change- problems with sex will get worse.
If sex is important to you and it's not important for her- I hate to tell you this, but your relationship is doomed.
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My advice from experience? You're 23. Leave. Assuming there are no financial obligations yet, this is the time to go...not when you have a house, kids, etc.
There are women out there who enjoy sex and who enjoy pleasing their men even when they don't necessarily want sex.
Your girlfriend needs a guy who either isn't attracted to her or is saving himself for marriage. You need a girl who is fun. Lose her.
BTW, as far women goes when it comes to initiating sex, watch what you ask for. Traditional male/female roles are based around the men being the pursuers and women being pursued. I actually prefer it this way.With a couple of GF's I've had in the past where the woman is more aggressive I found myself questioning their relationships with other men and realized that I would prefer not to be in LTR with these GF's becasue of the non-stop competing that you have to engage in to keep them happy....just my preference.
she's more consirned about messing up her hair? now that's really using every excuse in the book. 23 years old, you should be like the energizer bunny. what's her next excuse? ingrown toe nail?
Next time she uses the 'I don't want to mess up my hair' excuse, grab a handfull of styling gel and throw a glob on her head and mess that sucker up as much as possible.
1. She simply may dislike sex - there are women and men who don't like sex.
2. There are many personality factors which affect sexual response. Your personality and hers may not mesh in a way that trips her trigger.
You can't change this stuff. Also - any 23 year old woman who thinks that sex once every 2 weeks is ok - is going to be a nightmare as a sexual partner in the long run. Some people just don't think sex matters and if you do care they will tell you that YOU are the one with the problem.
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Originally Posted by meshmatic
Been together 2 yrs now... well I don't think she isn't physically attracted to me because I box and have a very fit body... no 6 pack... but it's enough for my gf to get mad at me during the summer becuz i go out with a tank top and girls see it...
Also, when we do make love... a few times we did it in front of the mirror and she thought we looked very hot... so i dont think its a physical attraction thing? maybe she jus said it to make me feel good?
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