Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
I have met and fallen for a younger man I am 41 he is 27. We have been seeing each other for about 6 months now and it has been a bumpy ride. It seems he has quite a few skeletons in the closet. We have been through the "Baby Mamma Drama" Ex Girfriend still calling drama, and a few other things, but no matter what the situation, he still ends up with me. We break up, and cannot stay apart. I am struggling through a bad marriage coming to an end, which doesnt help. He is struggling with a crazed Ex, who wants nothing more than to destroy him and anyone in his life. Through it all we find happiness with each other. It sounds crazy, but when we are together, life is good for both of us. There is more, but lets start here, and I will open up more as we go along.
Yes.. it can be real.. especially in your case.. it's not that big age gap.. 14 years... this is average for me..
My last ex (I lived 5 yrs with him, common-law) was 12 years younger.. he wanted to marry me to prove I was his soulmate.. I was 45 when we met.. he had just turned 33.
I can see where it could be a problem, long term.. when the age difference is 18+ and that goes for both gender.. but then again... I don't believe in long term for anyone.. age gap or not..
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Well, I was trying to start a journal, this is all new to me this loveshack thing. I like it though, the people are brutally honest.
I wanted you all to come with me on this journey. I guess I should have started from the beginning, but starting from today I will write what is going on in my life, and if anyone is interested, they can comment. It isnt boring I can tell you that. well as you read, I am married, unhappily.
I have been seeing my younger man since April. He is un employed presently, I am basically living between his apartment and my house. My husband has not confronted me about an affair, but he is starting to feel my absence from home. Amazing, because he goes out every freaking night and doesn't get home until 3, 4 sometimes 5 6 in the morning. We argued again last night, seems he feels that I should service him when he gets home. Yes!! service him, like this is a drive through jiffy lube or something. I can't stand him to even touch me, let alone service him. But I am not yet ready to walk away from what I have helped build. So I deal with him and his rude manner. My younger man, helps me in this area, he is sooo sweet and loving and gentle with me. While hubby is just arrogant and rough talking.
Just be careful though... I've dated much much younger men.. some like 20+ years younger.. still am... and one I can think of .. had a few odd jobs to help him pay his car... he was living at his parents... do I want to support him... NOOOOOO.... I don't mind the sex.. but they have to pull their strength... if not.. they,re out.. I dumped this guy.. and he was a hottie.. one of the most beautiful guy I've been with in my entire life..
So .. you got to be careful with this young man.. he can show you lotssss of gentle stuff.. blablabla.. just so you will support him financially.. (apartment, etc.)...
Are you working.. are you financially independant from your husband..
Roz, I was in just this situation, years ago. I met and fell hard for an older woman. She 40, me 24. I had just ended an Ltr, and she had just gotten divorced. We had immediate sparks. I have rarely felt so much love for a woman, as I did for her, and I still feel it sometimes when I think of her. In every way , we were compatible, sexually it was paradise. But over time, our interests diverged, our arguments increased, and the drama became so intense, that all that was left was our desire. It's not enough!! Your BF WILL want more from you than you will be willing to give, and as he begins to look at other , younger women, your jealousy will increase. This is the nature of older/younger relationships. You must be willing to accept this. Short-term, you will have an amazing amount of happiness, but long-term, this will turn to devastating sorrow. You must be prepared.
That just about hits it on the head. You are soo right. He is wonderful and I do believe he loves me deeply. He has asked me to marry him multiple times. On the contrary, he is very independent. He does support himself and does little things my husband never did. He buys me flowers for no reason at all, just because. Always roses. I think he may be different. Just slightly.
How can you say, her relationship will DEFINITELY end in sorrow, just because yours did?
Everyone is different.
I'm 42 and with a 25 yr old. We have had a rocky relationship and still have our share of issues, but somehow we keep working it out. We've been together off and on for 2+ years. I have no idea what the future will bring but I prefer not to think "it'll end in sorrow."
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Originally Posted by boldjack
Roz, I was in just this situation, years ago. I met and fell hard for an older woman. She 40, me 24. I had just ended an Ltr, and she had just gotten divorced. We had immediate sparks. I have rarely felt so much love for a woman, as I did for her, and I still feel it sometimes when I think of her. In every way , we were compatible, sexually it was paradise. But over time, our interests diverged, our arguments increased, and the drama became so intense, that all that was left was our desire. It's not enough!! Your BF WILL want more from you than you will be willing to give, and as he begins to look at other , younger women, your jealousy will increase. This is the nature of older/younger relationships. You must be willing to accept this. Short-term, you will have an amazing amount of happiness, but long-term, this will turn to devastating sorrow. You must be prepared.
Through it all we find happiness with each other. It sounds crazy, but when we are together, life is good for both of us. There is more, but lets start here, and I will open up more as we go along.
The common denominator here is dysfunction, both of you coming from poor relationship backgrounds. Age is not the primary issue here, the need for drama in your lives is. To that end, you're both perfectly suited to each other. If things end, it won't be because of age issues, it'll be because of something dramatic, something drama fueled, either too much of it or not enough of it (strangely enough).
Agree with Dexter, the only people who think 55 is the new 45 are 55 yr olds! I use to always think it was hot to date older women, until I hit 30 then not so much!
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