long story short, i'm going to ask my gf to marry me in the next few months. I've got the ring, came about buying it from walking around shopping, my gf drags me into all sorts of stores lol not to suggest what she wants...
The ring she seemed to love was quite different, it wasnt the princess cut monster ring worth 50k it was a smaller, had four small diamonds placed together in the middle to create a square, sat really flush the skin and had two spirals that connected to the ring that had tiny diamonds pushed into them. with white gold underneath the diamonds. looks really brilliant i love the way it looks. $1500 score.
out of everything she picked that, i know she likes it, she doesn't know I've got it.
my question is, does traditionally an engagement ring have to just have one fat stone in the middle?
The reason I'm asking is i wouldn't want her to run around showing it off and people being nasty about it or questioning it because its different or looks like a dress ring.
there is a background to your worry. A setting with smaller diamonds placed close to each other to form an illusion of one bigger diamond is called exactly that: ILLUSION setting. Now you normally do not hear 'commitment' and 'illusion' words go together.
To be sure here, was she aware that it was in fact not one center diamond?
Any chance the 4 can be replaced with one diamond in the same setting? Or a new setting be made that follows the original design but holds a smaller center diamond?
For an anecdote evidence, read about how cluster diamonds are perceived, have a look at Fred Cullen's critique of Sienna Miller's ring...
jesusfist, you bought her a ring that you know she loves. Don't worry about anything else. A LOT of meaning has been put onto something pretty and sparkly, where the most important meaning is, "I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you".
I've seen engagement rings that don't have diamonds in them at all. It all depends on what she loves, and what you pick out for her. No one can judge your love by the size or type of ring that you bought her. Some of the most successful couples I've met never had an engagement ring at all.
I'm sure everything will go fine, you sure do act like you've put a lot of thought into this. I'm sure she'll love it!
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thanks for the replies guys, its good to get a view from both sides.
But im sticking with it, its more a symbol than a glimpse at my wallet, she was fully aware of the style and its no illusion..god that sounds tacky. yes its terribly exciting lol
One center diamond is traditional, but traditional is boring imo. We aren't engaged yet, but we have the ring(waiting for divorces to be done) and my engagement ring is a beautiful emerald in white gold with tiny diamond accents.
Congrats on doing what so many men don't- *listening to your girl*
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You already know she loves the ring...and it sounds lovely, IMO.
Not all rings and not all girls are traditional. My own ring is artisan-made platinum and sapphire, which is what I wanted, and nobody has ever said anything catty to me, though a few have asked why I chose that, and I was happy to tell them. Other rings I thought about getting were also unusual, eternity rings or black pearls, though I was quickly talked out of the pearl only because it's such a soft material, not really durable enough for an engagement ring. One of my best friends opted for a beautiful vintage opal ring, and someone else I know chose a simple band crafted out of meteor rock, which I thought was amazing.
If anyone is tacky, shallow, and tasteless enough to make catty remarks or judgments about your fiancee's ring because it is unusual, well, that tells you a lot about the low quality of their character. Easy way to figure out who to avoid in future.
This "traditional" engagement ring of a band and mounted diamond solitaire is very very new, and was pushed by the De Beer company in order to increase the price and demand for diamonds at a time when new diamond discoveries in Africa were pushing supply up and price down. They had an ad campaign in 1947 that suggested that 'real love' demanded a 2-3 month salary equivalence from the man, as no woman would be satisfied with less. Up until that time, many engagement rings were semi-precious or other precious stones.
So really, there is no real "engagement ring style", unless you count this trend that has only been in existence for about 60 years and came about by a diamond company's desire to control the market.
OP, the ring that the two of you chose sounds beautiful, you sound charming, and I feel certain she will be thrilled with your proposal and proud to show the world this symbol of your promises to each other! Congratulations!!
I've known lots of women with engagements rings with colored stones or pearls...the most important thing is really that she likes it and is proud to wear it as a symbol of your union. Congratulations!
I always said that I didn't want a solitaire engagement ring. I just personally don't like the way they look. I have always wanted a three stone ring and even though many people consider it an anniversary ring...I just always loved the way they looked. When I got engaged about 8 months ago my fiance bought a beautiful three stone ring. It was actually even better than what I had said I wanted because the middle diamond is actually bigger than the other two and sits a bit higher.
I am sure many people think my engagement ring doesn't really look like a traditional engagement ring but I dont care. I doubt your future fiance will care either! If she loves it...then you are good to go!
My ring was a 7-stone marquise-cut-diamonds anniversary ring. Loved it - it was beautiful. No, it's absolutely not necessary at all to get whatever is "traditional" at the time. Fashions change so much. As long as you got something she loves, that's perfect!
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