[RubyHeart]

Hey everyone,

I've come seeking advice on an issue because I don't really know what to make of this situation. I'm a girl who tends to gravitate towards flamboyant and/or eccentric men. It's what I'm attracted to. Unfortunately for me a lot of the guys I'm attracted to turn out to be gay. I've gotten to the point where if I click with a guy I brace myself for the heart ache because 9/10 he's gay. Well, with one guy a couple of months back I just went ahead and assumed he was gay and asked him to take me to my friends b-day party I was being strong armed into going to and pretend to be my boyfriend so I wouldn't have to deal with the akwardness of drunk guys hitting on me. He agreed without hesitation and would even call me up every other day or so and say he couldn't wait for our date and he would flirt a bunch over the phone.

Well, naturally, I got really confused and confided in a few other friends who were freinds with both me and this guy and they all said the same thing as me and that's "I thought he was gay. I could have sworn.." I started to get embarassed the more he called to chat and the closer it got to the date thinking I had stereotyped him as your average flamboyant gay guy and started to worry he was taking the date seriously when I wasn't when I asked him. Well he comes over the night of the party and tells my room mate basically to piss off when she starts trying to play flirt with him and that he's here to see me and then we spend most of the night cuddled up together much to everyones surprise. He then decides he's to stay the night (too tired to drive, lives about 2-3 hours away) and cuddles up with me in bed so that our noses are touching as we talk to each other and we just spend the night .. well... talking.

So, the next day he gets up to leave and says on our next "date" he's going to take me to Starbucks to try a new drink. I'm rolling my eyes thinking to myself "What was THAT all about?" and I told a few friends about it. One of my guy friends was a bit worried that this guy was screwing with my head, so he decided to trick him into admitting he was gay to him by flirting with him on AIM and then logging the convo. In it he flirted with him a bit and asked if he was into guys and he couldn't get a straight answer out of him. Finally he just flat out asked him "No. Seriously. Are you gay? I'm just curious." and he said yes to him. So, I got mad and called him up and was like "I KNEW YOU WERE GAY. WHY WERE YOU PRETENDING YOU LIKED ME?!" and he just wouldn't give a straight answer to anything. He just kept apologizing and saying he was so embarrassed for getting caught and saying he didn't mean to lead me on.

So, we don't talk for a few weeks because things are akward between us. Finally though we both seem to get over it and start chatting regularly about plans of things we'll be doing with our mutual group of friends. Months go by and the group gets together for a road trip and he calls dibs to sit by me in the van. The ENTIRE 13 hour drive to where we're all going he keeps his arm wrapped around me, or if he wasn't doing that he'd lean his head on my shoulder or chest and go to sleep, or share his ear buds with me and make me listen to tunes with him, mostly love songs baout a guy getting back the girl he wants. The entire car ride My face is just like --> - wtf?

We get to where we're going and one of my other guyfriends is doing something silly while we're there and I giggle and give him a big hug and tell him he's so funny ect. and my supposedly gay guy friend grabs me really hard by the arm and drags me into another room, slams the door shut, locks it, turns to me looking livid. I wasn't sure what got into him but the way he was looking at me right then and there made me REALLY uncomfortable so I just sort of froze in place. He comes up and leans u against the wall I'm standing against and practically growls at me to "SIT DOWN" which I do almost instantly because he's seriously scaring me with how wierd and possessive he's acting. Just as I sit down I notice one of the other guys come up to the door (there's like a little rectangular window pane of glass by the handle) and he tries to open the door and then knocks when he realizes he can't because it's locked and waves at both of us cheerfully, completely unaware of what's going on.

Well, my supposedly gay friend turns around and smiles cheerfully back at him and does a total 180 in attitude, opening the door for him, being polite, as if nothing just happened. He just lets him in and the other guy asks what were doing in the room alone, and he says to him that we were just discussing an idea for the next event we'd all be hanging out at. I'm in too much of a state of shock to say anything so I just sort of nod quietly. The rest of the trip he's perfectly well behaved and cheerful like everyone else.

No other scary instances of acting overly possesive. Just that one instance... he does stick close to me whever we go though and on the drive back he still insists on sitting by me like before. But when I get tired and start to fall asleep on his shoulder he pushes me off and says "Girl, don't be leaning on me like I'm your boyfriend" all snarky and at that point I get pissed off and I'm like "What the hell is the matter with you? Do you have like mood swing problems or something? You slept on my shoulder almost the entire ride up and now I'm really tired and your suddenly all don't touch me?" and then he just stares at me all funny and wraps his arm around me and tells me to go to sleep.

Since then he's been calling me every day several times a day and texting me and I just don't know what to make of it. I like the attention and it's nice to know I can call him anytime and he won't mind but I've never had a gay friend who gets jealous over other guys or acts as possessive as this guy does. Is this normal? Has anybody else experienced anything like this? Having gay guy friends who are really cuddly and clingy/possessive? Or is this guy possibly a little confused with his sexuality? IDK. I just know he is starting to wierd me out a bit again, but I don't want to confront him about his strange behavior because last time I did it made our friendship akward for weeks and I really like being able to call him anytime and just talk about whatever. The weeks we weren't talking were just awful for me, because I get depressed easily, and most people don't like to hear about other peoples problems. But he'll always listen to whatever I have to say wether it's good or bad stuff going on in my life. So IDK.

Is this even anything to be worried about? It just seems very strange to me.