[ta21696]

Hi first of all thanks for reading here goes:

-Close(best friends) with this girl for about half a year, she breaks up with bf because he cheated and lied to her, they are in a LDR. He lives in China us in NYC, they were together for about 4 years

-another 8months are so goes by still very close with this girl and I finally make a move!

-Evrything is great we become a official couple a few months later and everything is great!

-Me and this girl go through alot same close friends, she comes to my moms funeral we're there for each other on every level through the good times and bad.

-1 day she tells me her ex is suicidal and that they never really got the closure that they both need since it was LDR, so she asks if its alrite for her to go there I say its ok just keep in contact with me. By this time we're together just over a year.

-She leaves for 3 weeks and never once contacted me i had to try to get a hold of her and that was only twice. Called her like 4 times one day didnt respond until a few hours later saying she was in the theatre watching a movie.Oh and she never once mentioned the sleeping arrangements

-When she returns home she tells me she still loves him and i break up with her, but i still love her and i told her that like 4 times during our whole relationship.

- I get her a job at my office since she just graduated and couldn't find anything we still remain close and she tells me she has no intention of getting back with her ex since she doesnt trust him, we make out like 3 times over a 6month span, talk like everyday for hours on the phone and go out atleast once a wk

-my cousin who is also dating her sister went through her phone to read a txt msg he sent to her when he stumbled across her telling her ex that she is still in love with him, wishes he was there with her, and basically some naughty txt msgs where shes asking him for sex and a spanking
which hurt me just thinking about it. i confront her and she admits it and apologizes but then i go NC with her

-2 years later my heart is still broken and she got back together with that guy and we have alot of similar friends so shes around, just so heart broken cause we were so close and never thought she would ever do something like this. I know we'll never be together again not even as friends b/c she doesnt deserve me at all in her life it just hurts when the only girl you ever tell that you love her and told everything to her betrays you in such a manner.

Thank you all for reading my story if you made it through it heres to a better tm for us all!

[soheartbroken]

In these two years since the breakup, do you see her often?

I'm so, so sorry for your pain. What she did is awful, and must have been agonizing.

[ta21696]

It was very hard and I do see her a handful of times not much but still hurts when I do just remember what she did still stings me, Thank You for you're reply and support

[mr heartbroken]

hey thats a really sad storey. by the sounds of it you are a strong individual. Its been two years you must really have loved her. i hope you find someone that will truly understand you and someone that will truly make you happy.

[ta21696]

thx mr. heartbroken,

just an update she contacted me saying she wants to see me, but i denied it I think she justs wants to ease her guilt before seeing her bf for a month, shes leaving next week and told me yesterday that she wants to see me and talk to me. I told her to forget about me for the sake of her new relationship b/c Ive learned talking to an ex causes the other person in the relationship to hurt even though they did it to me, Ill be good. Its like the saying goes

"Lifes challenges are suppose to make you better not bitter"

[twinklecat]

Originally Posted by ta21696

thx mr. heartbroken,

just an update she contacted me saying she wants to see me, but i denied it I think she justs wants to ease her guilt before seeing her bf for a month, shes leaving next week and told me yesterday that she wants to see me and talk to me. I told her to forget about me for the sake of her new relationship b/c Ive learned talking to an ex causes the other person in the relationship to hurt even though they did it to me, Ill be good. Its like the saying goes

"Lifes challenges are suppose to make you better not bitter"

That quote is very true. I'm really sorry to hear of your situation. It is awful right now, but it will get better, and we're all here for support

[ta21696]

Thx you twinklecat,

its just really hard for me b/c I dont really talk about my feelings to anyone and just have the mentally of "fake it till u make it" going on. Glad this place exists so I can hide behind the screen and talk to people about it

[twinklecat]

I can relate. Since my ex ended things I have found that the past few months my communication with everyone was just about non-existant, other than putting up a front, so I have found these forums a massive help to me too, often seeing what I have typed, just makes a bit more sense, it's helped me to open up to others too. Yep it hurts what we're all going through currently, but it's a temporary thing, it really will get better over time.