[RedDevil66]

This is what my BF is now and even with all the info I have on a dry drunk, I'm still not very clear about their actions.

But today I took the time to read a lot more about it and his behavior is all starting to make sense.
From how he acts, to how he raises his kids to everything he is

He's been in AA for a year. Not had one drink, but has yet to even speak at a meeting nor does he have a sponsor. He goes almost every single night.
What am I missing?!

[MrGeorge]

hi there,

First give him credit for bring the body to the meeting. I would suggest to him to go to a meeting early and take a greeting commitent or making coffee etc. Basically thats a great way of breaking the ice with other people.

When I started in AA it took me almost six months to talk infront of a group, so I could understand the anti_social tendency. He needs to be around other recovering alcholics because those who will understand him.the most.

Aside from step/closed/beginners meeting, there are open meeting to which nonmembers are welcome (relatvies spouse etc)

Anyways thats a start. it might a tough transition if he's been in this routine for a years, but it doesnt plant a seed.

Goodluck

[RedDevil66]

thanks MC. I've asked him if I could come to some meetings with him and he says yes, always makes an excuse for me not to go.
He's very sneaky so I suspect he's up to more than he wants me to know about.

I was really proud that he went and has been in AA for a year, but that is where my pride ends.
He's a hurtful person and has dragged me through the mud. The anger I feel for him is deep, even with this realization that he's a dry drunk.

I can handle the transition if he was not living in a world of denial.

This has drained my soul.....

[Meaplus3]

Originally Posted by RedDevil66

thanks MC. I've asked him if I could come to some meetings with him and he says yes, always makes an excuse for me not to go.
He's very sneaky so I suspect he's up to more than he wants me to know about.

I was really proud that he went and has been in AA for a year, but that is where my pride ends.
He's a hurtful person and has dragged me through the mud. The anger I feel for him is deep, even with this realization that he's a dry drunk.

I can handle the transition if he was not living in a world of denial.

This has drained my soul.....

There is a really great program called alanon for loved ones of a recovering alcoholic. You might want to look into a meeting in your area. It could shed some insight on where he's at.. and give you a better understanding of how his drrinking had affected your life. Just a thought for ya. Best wishes.

Mea

[RedDevil66]

Originally Posted by Meaplus3

There is a really great program called alanon for loved ones of a recovering alcoholic. You might want to look into a meeting in your area. It could shed some insight on where he's at.. and give you a better understanding of how his drrinking had affected your life. Just a thought for ya. Best wishes.

Mea

Hi, thanks for the post
I've been to al-anon, read the books and talk to other codependence.
I went at the begining of him going to AA so have discovered new info from him since
I may go back, but am way too busy to find the time