[WaveShifter]

So, long story short, my mom is a paranoid schizophrenic. Never been treated or diagnosed, but I have done enough reading online- and she refuses treatment.

Anyway, 2 yrs ago my dad started an affair with a co-worker. And he told the OW about my mom's "problems". That prompted him to get a divorce 1 year ago, after 30 yrs of marriage.

What pisses me off- is my dad's gf (the same one he had an affair with). I am not bitter about the affair, I want him to be happy- but what the other woman is doing really upsets me. My mom is foreign, & she's still trying to learn computers/email & such. The OW (after given account information from my dad) has limited her AOL account to 1 minute of time a day. When the divorce was finalized, she called & left a voicemail on the house phone just laughing- because my dad had her cell phone shut off. Not only that, she would change her password multiple times a day, just to mess with her. I know this wasn't my mom being paranoid because I was present for it.

She has drove by the house a few times pressing the garage door opener, just to mess with her(Nothing can be done about this because my dad bought her out of the house & she has to move out in August). Calls her new cell # at least 7 times a day (*67) & says nothing. There's no proof cuz my mom's new cell is a minute phone & she doesn't get a bill for it.

I don't think this is right, and it upsets me, they are playing off her mental illness- & that's not okay. Oh & I have heard a bunch of voice mails from the gf saying "ha ha ha we are watching you" - just to make my mom even more paranoid.

I have stopped all communication with my dad, because he is giving his gf access to upset my mom, because she can play off her mental illness. That's bull**** & not fair, we are not talking about a character flaw- it's a mental illness!

God, this woman is 53 & my dad 55, yet I feel like I am in highschool- dealing with a bunch of immature brats.

Maybe this is a vent, no idea what to do since my dad won't talk to me anymore.

[TwinkletOes26]

Can you get the calls traced? Make a log of everytime the ow drives by or calls your moms phone. Go to the police and get them to make note of it. Also if you can get a camera to servailence your property and the street infront of your house so youll have tape evidence of her driving buy repeatedly.

This is harassment and your mom shouldnt take that ish. Your father is well...im not gonna say what i think of him for pulling this but you say these people are in their 50s wow ....well i shouldnt be too surprised there are people that age and older who have acted worse.

[whichwayisup]

Your father and his girlfriend are just plain cruel!! It's bloody disguisting what they are doing to your mother. They should be ashamed of themselves!!! Reading this made my stomach lurch.

Yes, get evidence, as much as you can and file a harrassment suit against them both!

You have done the right thing by cutting your dad out of your life. He's an a-hole and so is his girlfriend!!! For your father to do this, to a woman he married and loved, had children with, is just plain sick and shows that your father is messed up as well.

[blind_otter]

I would confront my Dad and tell him exactly what I thought about his behavior.

[rachel m]

The nerve! This is outrageous.

Get your mom another number or phone ASAP and change the garage door opener.

I would also call local authorities and find out the steps to getting a restraining order that would protect your mom against that woman.

[WaveShifter]

Does anyone know if it's possible to get a phone bill for a minute phone? It's one of those cheap $30 phones u can pick up at walmart- the provider is Net10. She doesn't get a statement in the mail for it, it's just pay-as-you-go.

[Eve]

What an awful situation! I go with tracking the calls.

Horrible..

Take care,
Eve xx

[doushenka]

What a cruel creature! I feel awful for your mum. You have my sympathy. No idea what to do, but I feel for you.

[way_2_tired]

Even diagnosed schizophrenics have poor compliance rates with treatment because they don't usually really believe themselves to be ill and the medication, while it does help, has side effects that can be unpleasant.

However if you don't really belive yourself to be ill and your medicine makes you "feel funny" why take it?

If your mother's schizophrenia causes her to be a danger to herself or others I think you could get court order for her to take her medication. I know that is the case for some patients with schizophrenia.