Interested in this one girl but she won't seem to get interested !
I have known this girl for about eh...3 years. She goes to my youth group, but we really met through family get togethers. I have been going to the same youth group for about 5 years (once a week) buts its only been recent that she has been coming. When I first saw her there, she smiled ( a very good one !). I was surprised to see her, and I thought I was a little scared.
The next week.....
I see her again. She smiles almost the same way. I do small talk. I ask her about people she knows. I think she became a little bored.
Then one week I am not able to go.....
Since I go to an all boys school, I learned from some people that she had a boyfriend. I do some research and go to her facebook. It appears they only started being together since the end of February and the start of March. One day I ask her if she knows the guy she's with on a facebook messaging. She said it was her boyfriend, but suddenly she said she had to go. I asked her where she was going and she simply said " Ummmm......I have to go"
I see her the next week at the youth group. But she does not seem to be interested. She said hi..but I didn't think she was interested. I am not sure why she suddenly got so bored of me.
Last edited by phillipreed678; 22nd March 2009 at 5:32 PM..
You can't make anybody interested in you, no matter how much you want it. It sounds like you were in the dreaded friend zone and now on top of that she has a boyfriend. All you can do is move on and find a different girl, bud.
I dunno but to me you sound like you may be coming off a little "stalker-ish".. First by scoping out her facebook page and then asking her if she "knows" (huh?) the guy she is with in one of the pics... and um, hello? she said it was her BOYFRIEND. Then when you two were talking and she said she had to go and you went and asked WHERE she was going? yikes.. that kind of stuff can really creep girls out, ya know? You got to play it a little more cool... but not with this one. She is clearly NOT interested... sorry, but you need to let it go and move on.
Doesn't sound to me like she was EVER interested. And you can't MAKE somebody turn on an interest if they have decided you're not for them. Besides - she has a boyfriend. Have some respect, yo.
Any chance you had with her, you blew it early on. She probably got a "stalker" vibe from you when you pulled that facebook stunt.
As others have said, there is no 'convincing' a girl into being interested in you. It's not logical, so don't try to apply logic to it! I'd say you're SOL on this one, and you should just move on to the next one...
3 years?? stop wasting time and move on to other girls.
think about how many girls you could've banged in that period
My objective WAS NOT to bang her at all at this point. Yeah she is attractive But I liked her, her personality and what she is now. But whatever I blew it, any advice at least going for friendship ???
Oh and by the way is there any way to mend what I did at all ?? Is there any way convince her anyway elese. Yeah I have my options, lots of options with other women....
Oh and by the way is there any way to mend what I did at all ?? Is there any way convince her anyway elese. Yeah I have my options, lots of options with other women....
your best bet is to just back off, and hope she forgets about it. Chalk it up as a lesson learned. What do you mean by 'convince'? Read my previous post if you're thinking she'll change her mind about you romantically...
Oh and by the way is there any way to mend what I did at all ?? Is there any way convince her anyway elese. Yeah I have my options, lots of options with other women....
#1 back off from this girl
#2 start exploring all those other options you have (really?) maybe she will get a little jealous or at least realize you might be a cool guy after all... and not a stalker!
#1 back off from this girl
#2 start exploring all those other options you have (really?) maybe she will get a little jealous or at least realize you might be a cool guy after all... and not a stalker!
1# I will back off
2# I don't think I have even gone beyond small talk at all....I gotta find how to have "hang out" conversations because I just don't know how.
3# I don't think she thinks me as a stalker, just boring or rubbing her the wrong way.
Thanks at least for your advice. I know it may seem strange coming from a person like me.
Last edited by phillipreed678; 23rd March 2009 at 3:10 PM..
well I will update, she broke up with her boyfriend yesterday. Does that give an opprutunity ?? HELL NO !
Please tell me you didnt ask her, and get rejected again.
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1# I will back off
2# I don't think I have even gone beyond small talk at all....I gotta find how to have "hang out" conversations because I just don't know how.
3# I don't think she thinks me as a stalker, just boring or rubbing her the wrong way.
1. You dont have a choice, you have to.
2. You dont need to worry about conversations with this girl at all. You need to move on to those other options. This girl isnt one of them anymore.
3. Thats not much better.
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Oh and by the way is there any way to mend what I did at all ??
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