[stelllar]

Okay so here's the story, my boyfriend cheated on me and i took him back ... he went on a trip where she was there and he cheated on me again ... i looked through his phone and saw that he had sent her a text and i got furious. I think there is something COMPLETELY wrong in him keeping contact with her, and he doesnt. any opinions?

[kizik]

What he's doing is completely not OK, but the real questions are, the ones you need to ask yourself a bunch of times:

"What is it about me that takes a cheater back? Why is my self-esteem so low? How can I change that, realize how great I am, and that I deserve someone honest and trustworthy?"

[MinusTwo]

Originally Posted by holyhannah

Once a cheater always a cheater. Myself I have been with a lot of people but I have never cheated. Unlike us guys cannot be "just friends", you know there is always 1 thing on a guys mind when he is with a girl.... especially if he has been with her before. Dump that idiot and find a real man! (or woman dont get caught up in his games you will feel better in the end trust me!

While I do agree with your advice to dump him, I completely disagree with your jaded stereotype of "guys" in general. Who are you to speak for all guys because YOU were cheated on? I have plenty of very attractive female friends who I have no romantic and/or sexual desire for. Furthermore, I would not hook up with ANY girl I had previously hooked up with.

[motive2002]

he went on a trip where she was there and he cheated on me again

Do yourself a favor and develop a "one strike and you're out" policy on this sort of thing. Seriously. Do not make exceptions for this rule. Ever.

[Javelin]

Originally Posted by stelllar

Okay so here's the story, my boyfriend cheated on me and i took him back ... he went on a trip where she was there and he cheated on me again ... i looked through his phone and saw that he had sent her a text and i got furious. I think there is something COMPLETELY wrong in him keeping contact with her, and he doesnt. any opinions?

There is something wrong with being in a relationship with a serial cheater. Unless you both are cheating on each other, I would leave the picture and find a decent guy.

[bish]

Originally Posted by stelllar

Okay so here's the story, my boyfriend cheated on me and i took him back ... he went on a trip where she was there and he cheated on me again ... i looked through his phone and saw that he had sent her a text and i got furious. I think there is something COMPLETELY wrong in him keeping contact with her, and he doesnt. any opinions?

It is COMPLETELY wrong for him to stay in contact with her, not to mention highly disrespectful to you.

Don't even ask him to stop. He should have stayed away from her on his own if he cared about you. But then again, he wouldn't have cheated at all if he cared about you.

Dump his worthless ass.