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Old 17th July 2008, 7:23 AM   #1
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Do guys generally not like to date women who are virgins and are 20+?

Does being a virgin who is 20+, turn off guys?
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:32 AM   #2
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Good point

Well I see that being a virgin is a good point because it shows great moral and that you’re waiting for the right guy... So guys will be very attracted to this. Although some guys that are wanting a quick 'shag' will see u are too much off a challenge and be put off....
TBH I wouldn’t see that being a problem at all... Just be careful that you know the guy and he isn’t just wanting to use u....
‘There is a perfect person for everyone who is willing to wait’
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:34 AM   #3
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Im unable to speak for all men but imo it wouldn't turn me off. Being a virgin is not shameful and there is no set age to lose your virginity. i know people who have lost their virginity in a one-night-stand and have regretted it since, as they now wish they had waited, so that their first sexual encounter was special and important.
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:36 AM   #4
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Well, a lot of guys I know tell me that they personally would never sleep with a 20+ year old virgin...
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:39 AM   #5
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hmmm

Have they told your the reason for that... Im interested now because i've just ask a couple off my friends your question and they said it wasnt a problem (20-25)
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:39 AM   #6
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that is their preference and they are entitled to it but they do not speak for the wider spectrum of men. There will be men who are put off by it and other men won't be put off by it. To me it's not even an issue and certainly not an issue to be embarrassed about.
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:45 AM   #7
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Have they told your the reason for that... Im interested now because i've just ask a couple off my friends your question and they said it wasnt a problem (20-25)
yes they did, they said that it would make them believe that there was something wrong with the woman or she was frigid, etc.
BTW, by 20-25 , do you mean your friends are in that age group?
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:51 AM   #8
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yes they did, they said that it would make them believe that there was something wrong with the woman or she was frigid, etc.
Clearly these people are not known for their open-mindedness?

What is your take on the situation?

I imagine the post is about you?
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:54 AM   #9
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Clearly these people are not known for their open-mindedness?

What is your take on the situation?

I imagine the post is about you?
Yes, it is.
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Old 17th July 2008, 7:55 AM   #10
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yes it was

Yep sorry. That’s their age group. To be fair that would be going thought any guys head. In today’s society I think that 85% of people have lost their virginity before 20... So being a virgin puts you in the minority…. I think that if you have a reason e.g. ‘ you haven’t found the right guy…’
Anyone would be fine with that and any doubt would go.
One off my good friends is a model (20years old) and still a virgin. As you can imagine a lot of guys are after her and this is a question that she gets asked virtually every night…. And she said ‘ I want it to be with the right guy’
Honestly don’t worry…. If guys do reject u because off this. Just remember it’s their loss and you are one closer to finding the right guy.
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Old 17th July 2008, 8:07 AM   #11
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Yep sorry. That’s their age group. To be fair that would be going thought any guys head.
yeah, thought so.

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In today’s society I think that 85% of people have lost their virginity before 20... So being a virgin puts you in the minority…. I think that if you have a reason e.g. ‘ you haven’t found the right guy…’
that's true for me. never had a long term relationship, and i didn't want to sleep with anyone outside one.
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Old 17th July 2008, 8:19 AM   #12
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that's true for me. never had a long term relationship, and i didn't want to sleep with anyone outside one.
That's very commendable and it is good to see there are people left with morals.

Im also in the same boat as you, though im younger, im looking for the right woman.
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Old 17th July 2008, 8:21 AM   #13
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Hi
You have done a good question, it’s really interesting. If you get any good reply, so please let me know. So I’ll also get some good idea.
Thanks for your future help.
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Old 17th July 2008, 10:03 AM   #14
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That's very commendable and it is good to see there are people left with morals.

Im also in the same boat as you, though im younger, im looking for the right woman.
that's cool. are you waiting for religious reasons?
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Old 17th July 2008, 10:05 AM   #15
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Does being a virgin who is 20+, turn off guys?
You are joking right?

WHat's wrong with being a 20 something virgin?

Granted a 21 year old virgin is way better than a 29 year old virgin, but it's all good.

It's like a car.
You always prefer brand new, but if you buy used you want as few miles on the counter as possible.

CHeers,
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