[Dark-N-Romantic]

This is of the biggest issues in the "war" between the sexes. Especially when it comes to men's views of women.

Scenario: You see a woman walking down the street (she can be dressed anyway you think she is dressed (or he if your female or that is your flavor of love)), and I turn my head to see what she looks like from the back...

What would you think?

A) That a that person was looking at you as a sex object.

or
B) Admiring your sexuality/sexiness.

Other than obvious signs (ie cat calls, the obvious look, or other rude/crude comments) when do you consider yourself being viewed only as an object for sex?

When do you think, if ever, there is a time a person should view as an object for sexual pleasure (don't get me wrong I am not talking about as some plastic blow up doll or as a vibrator, but where you just want that person or persons to lust after you)?

Is there an appropriate time for a person to let their lustful desires for you know? If so, when?

Have/Do you dress for the soul purpose to flaunt your sexuality (either just to show your sexiness or to get people to just go, "Can we get a hotel room?" Which does not mean you would do it, but you know)?

To me I think that is the biggest thing that gets, usually us guys into trouble. Trying to figure out when and how to use our and view other's sexiness and when to throughout and view someone for their pure animal magnetism.

As for my answers...

I am not good at picking up hidden signs. So, unless I see a certain look in a woman's eye, here a comment, or getting groped and pounced, I may never know the difference. But, most women can't tell when I am though.

I think when I am at a club, where there is the dancing and the heat of the bodies and the music pumping the blood, that is when I feel it is cool to be seen as a lust puppy's chew toy. But, just because it is okay for me to be viewed like that in such a situation, does not mean I (or a person has to be easy, but it does establish that there might be a possible sexual connection there, like so many of you express is necessary in yall's relationship).

Other times that might be good and acceptable to me is, if I were just walking around, sometimes I love to hear that purr, or "Oh, poppy." and other words that encourages one's libido. Its not cool though if you see me with another female around (then I get embarrassed real quick and retreat into my shell). A library is cool too. Not so much at work, but maybe during lunch break.

Once in a while I like to dress in loose shirts or my tight body shirt (so, what if I don't have muscles... it still makes me feel very sensual and ready to be pounced on by those female wild cats). I also have some claw rings I might add to the assumable. Now if I want to look sexy, I'll put on some nice dress slacks, a silk shirt and a tie. Or a causal suit.


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[annieo]

I find it flattering when I get checked out. Makes me smile a little secret smile.
And while I never put everything in the shop window, I know what my assets are (ha, ha, ass ets), and I know how to play them up. Try to be subtle, though.
Cat calls, yuck. Ditto prolonged leering stares at body parts.
Although I'll be honest, a lot of it depends on who it's coming from. If some cute guy is a little more obvious, it still kind of nice. But if some creepy dude on the subway is looking at me with the dirty smile, I just stick my nose further into my book.
I love the expression you used, "lust puppy's chew toy". Very amusing.

[Dark-N-Romantic]

I try my best to please.


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Ah. The lovely subway system. My favorite mode of travel.

[Jersey Shortie]

What would you think?

A) That a that person was looking at you as a sex object.

or
B) Admiring your sexuality/sexiness.

Could be A. Could be B. Could be a combination of the two or neither. I think what turns a person into a sex object isnt' that you find them sexy or are sexually attracted to them, but when you use them for the sole pleasure of giving yourself pleasure. So it really depends on the intention behind the looking.

[Hyperpen12000]

I don't think there's nothing wrong with looking at woman as a sex object. The problem is when a guy looks at all women that way and nothing more. I think being attracted to a woman before or during a relationship objectively, can't be helped. Of course personality is a requisite but even that's put into category of being an asset to sexual attraction. Guys are extremely visual creatures. When a guy sees a woman with the particular physique he likes, that makes him want her. In some cases, want to get to know her.

Men have to be objectively attracted to women to be sexually aroused. That's what makes intimacy stimulating for a man. To put any other emphasis on a woman, when having sex, just makes it seem like a chore or uninteresting. What guys seriously thinks of how intelligent his woman is when having sex?

The only reason it probably doesn't make sense is because it's a sensitive subject to women. You first have to define what "sex object" means to you. If it means an entity that is only useful for sexual pleasure (A piece of meat), then is would be offensive or derogatory towards women.

To me, (most) sexual objectiveness emphasizes a person’s sexual attributes and physical attractiveness. There’s an appropriate and inappropriate times to have these views. To completely debunk or extinguish those thoughts are ridiculous. A part in all of us has to look at a person in an sexually objective way to want them sexually but that's not the conclusion to it all. You can look at a person and say they're looking sexy and not want them.






Objective - Undistorted by emotion or personal bias; based on observable phenomena