Have you ever dated someone outside your race, and what was your experience? Would you rather cross over or stick to your own race? Do you think race matters in relationships? Being someone who has been dissapointed so much by people of my own race, I'm really considering trying a diferrent race next time around.
Yes, I've been in a relationship with someone of a different ethnic background. It's no different than any other relationship since both parties are human beings. Are you compatible or not? In my situation, we weren't compatible but not because of ethnic differences.
If you view it as an interracial relationship, you might as well give up right now.
I think it's all a matter of values. Some people are compatible while others aren't. There are cultures with a higher level of compatibility (e.g. Italians and Chinese come to mind as they share the same family values) than others (e.g. a very religious person with an atheist).
I never dated a white woman even though I'm a black guy, there is a girl now who I am interested in and we talk but she's white. That's not a big issue, but her father who's from texas might have a problem with that if he finds out! lol.
thank god he lives down there.
Anyway's yes there are gonna be problems, there are gonna be haters, naysayers, and detractors.
I know if me and her went out oin my neighborhood we would get the eye quick!!! it's progressive in nyc but you can still feel the hate.
I dont have a problem with it. if you guys both click and have great chemistry and seem to want to make it work. then it could work.
at the end of the day im a man and she's a woman race notwithstanding.
Have you ever dated someone outside your race, and what was your experience? Would you rather cross over or stick to your own race? Do you think race matters in relationships? Being someone who has been dissapointed so much by people of my own race, I'm really considering trying a diferrent race next time around.
Thoughts?
That really is the wrong reason.
My husband is black and I am white, as for race being an issue..not with us. I am fortunate enough to have family that doesn't care about what race someone is. And where I live people are very tolerant and don't care about race or sexuality preferences. I have always wanted mixed race kids because they are soo beautiful, and sometimes I think that has a little to do with my preferences. Where you live can make a difference though. I have found that when I travel with my husband we run into a lot of problems in Arkansas( they actually refused to serve us in 3 separate restaurants) and some in Mississippi. Some people are just ass backwards about interracial dating.
What has caused you to ponder this?
I agree that it's a matter of values but I don't think you can blanket evaluate by culture. Many with ethnic backgrounds have westernized into the North American culture so it's an assumption that they still live by or believe in their heritage.
Match your values v. trying to match by the superficial, which is all racism is about.
I sort of agree with Trialbyfire on this one, as the only problem I've ever had with dating when it comes to race is the other person being a little too interested in mine. While it is understandable if the other person is mostly around people of his own race, it still can be a bit uncomfortable at times. Being multiracial myself, I don't really pay too much attention to ethnicity. Either he's hot or he's not.
It could just be my region, but I actually see more difference when it comes to socio-economic background and education that I do when it comes to ethnicity, especially if the person is the same nationality.
Yes, I've been in a relationship with someone of a different ethnic background. It's no different than any other relationship since both parties are human beings. Are you compatible or not? In my situation, we weren't compatible but not because of ethnic differences.
Oh, but just because we are all human beings it doesn't mean we are same, and some of the characteristics that makes human beings different from one another is our ethnic backgrounds.
[quote]If you view it as an interracial relationship, you might as well giveup right now.[/QUOTE]
Oh, no, I won't. I don't see any harm in viewing it for what it actually is; and that is interracial, meaning a relationship of two people of different race/ethnic backgrounds.
I'm white. I've dated two Korean girls before. One was very casual (nothing serious or sexual). The other was very serious and very sexual.
I have no issues with inter racial dating, but it was tough from a cultural perspective. I'm white, but I have a lot of culture and tradition being a first generation in the States. Mix that with a first generation Korean, and you can have conflict on the fundamental levels (money, religion, etc.). It's more than a basic imcompatiblity - we had very distinct ways of life, and the way we were raised and the values we were taught. Neither of us being wrong, but it created tension.
Have you ever dated someone outside your race, and what was your experience? Would you rather cross over or stick to your own race? Do you think race matters in relationships? Being someone who has been dissapointed so much by people of my own race, I'm really considering trying a diferrent race next time around.
Thoughts?
I've never dated anyone of my own race. Those people who are of mixed race like me are kind of few and far between.
Being that I am of mixed race, I've never really considered myself of a specific race. I am both, intermingled, and I was raised as such.
I guess you could say all my relationships are interracial!
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I sort of agree with Trialbyfire on this one, as the only problem I've ever had with dating when it comes to race is the other person being a little too interested in mine. While it is understandable if the other person is mostly around people of his own race, it still can be a bit uncomfortable at times. Being multiracial myself, I don't really pay too much attention to ethnicity. Either he's hot or he's not.
It could just be my region, but I actually see more difference when it comes to socio-economic background and education that I do when it comes to ethnicity, especially if the person is the same nationality.
I agree with KinAZ here. I was always really turned off when it seemed that the person I was dating was really attracted to the fact that I was white. It would make me feel like they picked me for my race and not who I was. I found the way around this was to date black men who only liked black women. This way I could be sure they weren't with me for my race. My friends thought this logic was retarded but it worked for me. In the end though it really is your desires in life that make you compatible not your race.
A really nice caucasian guy has been showing interest with me for quite sometime, reason why I haven't given him my time of the day is because he's white (not because I don't like white but it's kind of unwritten rule to better stick with your own race, or ..). I have dated blacks of different ethnicity, again I found it hard to adjust to their cultures and ways and they found mine difficult to adjust too. So clearly, having different ethnicity can play a major role, however I was looking forward to hear some successful stories such as yours.
Yes, I've been in a relationship with someone of a different ethnic background. It's no different than any other relationship since both parties are human beings. Are you compatible or not? In my situation, we weren't compatible but not because of ethnic differences.
If you view it as an interracial relationship, you might as well give up right now.
I"m with TBF on this. I too have dated interracially. It's only an issue if you make it into one. We live in a different day and age, where acceptance of this sort of thing is pretty common, at least it is here in the US.
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I agree with KinAZ here. I was always really turned off when it seemed that the person I was dating was really attracted to the fact that I was white. It would make me feel like they picked me for my race and not who I was. I found the way around this was to date black men who only liked black women. This way I could be sure they weren't with me for my race. My friends thought this logic was retarded but it worked for me. In the end though it really is your desires in life that make you compatible not your race.
You know, everyday we hear all sorts of myths that Whites are good with this and behave this way, Blacks do this, Indians are good with that; so I guess sometimes one can get attracted to someone of a certain race because, among other things, that race is known to be good with certain things. Will you find that offending? For example, where I come from, women are traditionally known to be submissive to men and most guys I dated clearly confessed that to me among other reasons, they were attracted to me because of where I come from, and what they believe women of my race behave. I have never found that offensive, or felt they love me less and my race/ethnicity more.
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