[Bradie]

So, my first bf and I have been dating for about two months. During that time, I introduced him to my best friend. Now, the thing is, people often mistake us for sisters because our looks are so similar, and we have eerily similar tastes and personalities, to the point where I can pretty much predict what book she's going to pick, because I'm interested in it too. In fact, we're so similar that lately it's really been getting on my nerves. Well, he met her, and told me he thought she was "cute" and that she looked almost exactly like me. Now he has a nickname for her, and I find out he's been IMing her and they've been talking about a bunch of stuff, including a couple of things she hasn't really told me about herself. He invited her to tag along with us on a couple of activities (of his own accord; didn't ask me beforehand if I wanted her to come along, and I"ll find out when he says "Oh, by the way, I invited [friend] to do [activity] with us next weekend") and already has his own little nickname for her. He frequently asks me if I've got any plans to do stuff with her, and when I ask why, he says he's just curious.

Should I have anything to worry about? I think he seems a little too interested in her, but is this normal? Is he just trying to be friendly, or should I be wary? This is my first relationship and I'm not sure how to handle any of this. Are my insecurities getting in the way? He claims to really care about me (I don't want him to say "love" even though I know he wants to because it makes me a little uncomfortable) and I trust him on this, but I also get upset whenever he talks about her again. Is this all in my head?

By the way, I have yet to meet any of his friends; he says it's because they live too far away. I have met his family and he's met mine.

[Mahatma]

how old is he?

I am going to assume that since its your first relationship, you are probably in your teens? Early 20s? Anyway, this seems a bit odd. I would be worried. I have had a case like this and it is bad for two reasons. It can split up a relationship with best friends and also screw you out of a relationship. Recently I had to deal with something similar and I just had to tell my friend that me and this girl were starting to get serious and he completely understood because we are such good friends and we both realize that breaking up a long time friendship isn't worth a girl that we both just met. The sooner you solve this problem, the easier it will be.

[Bradie]

I'm early 20's, he's mid-20's. I trust him and he seems to be fairly honorable, but I'm still suspicious. I know I'm feeling a little insecure about all of this, which is why I wanted to get a neutral third party's opinion on it.

[GPFan]

Hi Bradie,

Two-months in is a relatively new relationship. He likes your friend a lot and is trying to date both of you simultaneously as it were. Your friend is responding favourably to his interest.

It may be time to take exclusivity off the table and demote him to another dating prospect as he has already done to you.

What happens next will make your decision for you.

Take care and be good to yourself.